(Closed) How did you "propose" to your Bridesmaids?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
1262 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

“Hey girl, you in?” Honestly I did nothing creative or extravagent. I just asked. 

Post # 3
720 posts
Busy bee

I made them boxes with their names on it and I wrote them a note why I loved them so much and asked them to help me tie the knot? With a little knot bracelet. Hope it happens soon for you. 🙂 


Post # 4
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I took an idea from Pinterest. Wrore my girls a letter about our friendship or relationship, why I loved them, etc. Then at the bottom I put “now it’s my turn to pop the question…will you be my bridesmaid/maid of honor?” I included a ring pop. Inexpensive but still cute!

Post # 5
2297 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I just asked them….I didn’t do anything extravagent.  I saved my gifts and heartfelt cards for the day of the wedding. 

Post # 6
46 posts
  • Wedding: April 2015

I also did a box with champagne and goodies


it was fun and they were all excited!


Post # 7
683 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Maid/Matron of Honor: Hmm while having brunch the day after the proposal with her and FH lol

Bridesmaid 1: Via phone call when she called me to say congrats on the engagement.

Bridesmaid 2: Via Skype while discussing HER wedding where I am Maid/Matron of Honor (oopsies).

Bridesmaid 3: Via Email since she lives in the other side of the world, different time zones and we don’t really keep in touch enough but I want to have the people I LOVE the most, not that I SEE the most.

Bridesmaid 4: Email and whatsapp when discussing MY wedding and HER pregnancy.

Bridesmaid 5: Can’t remember, I think while giving her a ride or something and discussing the wedding.

I guess that makes me lame! I saved these really cute ideas from Pitnerest but come on, it was either doing all of the above or waiting until I found “time”to put something really cute together to mail it to everyone and I STILL would not have a bridal party.

I also asked two groomsmen (I guess bridesmen?) because not everyone will be able to travel on his side.

I must say I did not put a lot of thought into the asking part but yes into choosing. I sat and literally thought well my decision. Who do I love and want to have there for the right reasons?

My email to them and whatsapp messages were really cute though! haha

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 10 months ago by  MuseForever.
Post # 8
3731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

“Yo, I’m getting married. Want to be a bridesmaid?”

It worked. They all said yes.

Post # 9
4885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I only have 2 in my party. I gave each of them a box (used one of my Birchboxes), and inside was a small bottle of pink moscato champagne, nail polish in a blue, lip gloss, and a card that asked them. My sister got the card that asked to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, and my Future Sister-In-Law got a card that asked to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man. I got both cards from a shop on Etsy.

I still slap myself for not getting pictures of the boxes, but oh well. They both loved them.


Post # 10
3037 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

I had photo cards made at walmart for them.  They had a bunch of inspiration photos of what i want the wedding to look like and said…

‘something old

something new

something borrowed

something blue’


and on the inside: ‘friends just like you! (name) will you be my bridesmaid?’ 


a friend of mine did something similar, a card with the definition of bridesmaid on it that she mailed to us.


I fully intended on putting together a box with inspritation photos and a gift but… laziness and business took over. 

Post # 11
81 posts
Worker bee

I though about just asking them but I love doing cute stuff too much! I mailed a puzzle that said “Will you be my bridesmaid?” with a note saying why I wanted them in my wedding and how appreciative I’d be. They all said yes! My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and we joke around a lot, she had been hinting that I needed to ask her but I just kept saying she’s not invited and I’ll have security kick her out, so I thought I should do something extra nice for her. I got her a polka dot box that had pink champagne in it along with some nice candy and a Maid of Honor shirt. She was very excited I finally asked!

Post # 13
1 posts

For my Maid/Matron of Honor, I ordered a book about knot-tying and rope, and included a note saying, “I can’t figure this out on my own. Will you help?” A second gift box contained an apron with a big first place ribbon on it and a card that identified it as her “uniform.” 😉

Each bridesmaid was different. For one, I wrote and illustrated a multiple-page card that detailed important moments in our friendship, with the last page showing us on my wedding day. For another, I bought an ugly dress at Goodwill and included a card that said she had to wear it at my wedding. Under the dress, though, a second note was included:

“UNLESS you’re a bridesmaid. I can’t promise you’ll wear the dress again, but I assure you it won’t be this ugly.”

Coming up with ways to personalize each request, and highlight how special each person is, was really important to me. I’m planning our wedding to include as many people in special ways as possible–we wouldn’t be where or who we are without our families and communities, so my goal is to reflect that. Not everyone’s cup of tea, but definitely mine! 🙂

Post # 14
2123 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

a text message with my date and Bridesmaid? to my two closest friends, and my sisters were just an auto assumption. i think “proposing” to bridesmaids is way cheesy, but we’re also all 30, so maybe it’s my old ladyness talking.

Post # 15
788 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I didn’t do anything special. I told them what was up, and they were in. 

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