Post # 1
Just curious, when your SO/FI first brought the news that he will be moving away, hence the LDR, how did you react? E.g. are you sad, scared, appeared to be tough, etc?
In my case, I was more shocked to hear the news and upset to see how he seems happy with the decision. He brought up the news after 3 weeks we didn’t see each other nor give phone call, due to his exhausting exam preparation. It was very tough and I was very happy when we went out again, only to hear that he will be moving to our home country in the next 4 months, or even faster. Most of the time, the thought of I won’t be able to see him for longer time brought tears to my eye, anxiety, and restlessness. Discussing with friends, I managed to recompose myself and rethink on moving back to follow him in the future. He, on the other hand, seems very excited on the plan and even thinking on moving out faster. Occassionaly, I felt like he didn’t even consider my feeling that I’m struggling to recompose myself.. haha. I realize I’m an emotional creature, luckily we don’t stay together so I got some space to build up the rational thinking. We do plan to talk about “us” rather just about “him”, but recently we also started to argue (we never had arguments which kinda worried me.. ).
How about you, Bees? It would be lovely to hear your story.
Post # 3
Since my SO went to medical school, and had always planned to do so, it wasn’t exactly as surprise, and I had been mentally preparing myself for the possibility (or rather, the probability) since we started dating. Even still, him getting his acceptance to a school 5 hours away and then preparing to leave was really difficult for me, since I was (and am!) incredibly proud of him for achieving his dreams, but didn’t want to see him go. It was hard to accept that it was actually happening even though I knew for a year and a half that he was most likely going to be leaving at some point!
Post # 4
@sammyann: I definitely get this feeling! my FI and I had been together for a year when he got accepted into the army. While I knew the possibility was always there, I didn’t really think it would ever happen, so when it did, I was devastated.
My FI has been away at bootcamp for 4 months now, and I found it unbelievably hard when he left. I felt like he didn’t love me, because I don’t think I would be able to do anything that cut me off from him like that.
We have talked about it though, and I know he loves me, and I’ve realised how good the whole experience has been for him, and he’s realised its what he wants to do with his life. As much as I hate that this is what he has decided, I do my best to support him, because it hasn’t been easy being away from me either.
I haven’t handled it brilliantly though. The thought of being apart was unbearable, but you get through it, and I know how much I love him, and i want to spend the rest of my life with him, so I just keep busy to keep my mind off it, and stay strong for both of us