Post # 1
I tried to search to see if this question has been answered or discussed before, but only found links to Bee blogs who said they were writing and memorizing their vows.
We’re using our own vows and it doesn’t feel appropriate to have our officiant read them for us to repeat — but I’m not sure that I want the pressure of memorizing them. Does anyone have any advice for using cards to read from? Has this been done successfully,or do you have things we should avoid?
Also, somewhat unrelated to this, we are having the officiant do short traditional vows so that we can each say "I do!" and we’re incorporating this into the ring exchange.
Post # 3
I like that mary alice me! You should send me a script or something when you are a married woman so I can see how you did it. I want to do the same (I like all the traditional parts but want to say our own vows, just don’t know where!)
Post # 4
I plan to make pretty booklets for our vows – no crumpled scribbled-upon notebook paper at the altar. That being said, we haven’t yet discussed our vows in any great depth. I seem to recall him mentioning he’d prefer to repeat after the officiant. I’d rather read our vows. I agree that it doesn’t seem right to repeat after the minister from something you’ve personally written.
Post # 5
Basically, we’ll read or recite our vows, then the officiant will ask for the rings and recite vows again, "Do you take this woman as your wife and equal, keeping yourself only to her, for as long as you both shall live?" Then we’ll answer, "I do, and I give you this ring as a symbol of my promise."
iviary – what kind of booklets would you make? Have you thought about or seen who would hold them? I think I’ll try to come up with something like what you mentioned.
Post # 6
My fiance and I are going to be reciting our own vows, and I think we’ll probably do a mix of memorization and reading them. As in, we’ll TRY to memorize them, but we’ll have them with us written out in full just in case. I actually read one wedding profile where the "ring bearer" brought up the vows written on scrolls (I think the rings held them closed, but I’m not sure) — I really like that idea!
Post # 7
I like the idea of scrolls too and have thought about mounting them in our bedroom after with a picture of us. I like the ring wrapped around them idea but I’d be afraid they’d fall off maybe if they were tied to the scroll with ribbon or string might be good. And you could easily hold a scroll in your hand with a boquet.
Post # 8
@mary-alice-me – I’ve never seen it in action, but I feel like I’ve seen it pictured or mentioned on one or some of the many wedding blogs I follow. Unfortunately, I can’t find my original inspiration, but I’m picturing something along the lines of these martha stewart programs, but in our earth-tone colors:
I figure our officiant could hang on to the booklet until we need them. We’d each have one to hold while we read from them, I think. The only problem I see with that is that we’d be unable to hold hands while we read our vows, but that’s probably alright. We could return the booklets to the officiant before the portion of the ceremony where we exchange rings.