Post # 1
Just curious how other bees laid it out there for their family and friends. How did they react? Did you have mostly positive or some negative reactions?
Wondering what to expect basically.
We are about a 70/30 split for destination vs. at home wedding. The 70 being that it is something we can afford, whereas even the cheapest we had budgeted out for a local wedding celebration would be at minimum $5-6k.
Words of advice? Thanks bees!
Post # 3
@jlc3: We told our parents right when we got engaged that we wanted a destination wedding. They were supportive of the idea mostly. We told our friends right away also that they new to plan to come to our wedding. Some people in my family didnt like the idea because they couldnt come but we weren’t too concerned with that because we didn’t really want them there to begin with lol Only the people we really wanted at our wedding were there! 67 people attended our wedding in Cuba in May and I think that was a good turnout for a destination wedding!! My advice would be to tell people as early as you possibly can about dates and prices so that you can get alot of people on board! Good luck!
Post # 4
@jlc3: We told our families and friends right when we told them we were engaged. Our friends were absolutely not suprised that I wanted the wedding in Hawaii since we’re both very attached to the islands and we got engaged there, but my parents initially tried to persuade me to have the wedding at home “so everyone can come” lol. I really don’t want a big wedding and I can’t imagine myself getting married anywhere else. When they asked about our timeline I said 2 years and they got more comfortable with the idea.
Post # 5
Our wedding isn’t necessarily a DW, but it kinda is because everyone has to travel out of state, but its not like a cool island wedding or anything. We had originally planned on having our wedding in FI’s hometown and had asked his dad to talk to a specific person (his oldest daughter) and ask her if we could use her property to save money. FFIL never asked, and FI doesn’t really talk to her much because they are half siblings, and then we found something so much cheaper and somewhere that I was dying to get married (my dad’s hometown, my dad is dead) so we put a deposit on that place. It’s a six hour drive for his family, and a six hour flight for mine.
FFIL used everything he could against us. “Nobody is going to show up, a lot can happen in a year, you might not even be together. Do you even have any friends anymore? Why don’t you guys just elope? You’ll be lucky if 25 people come.”
I was freaking livid. Just because you don’t want to travel, you CANNOT doubt our relationship, or use that as an excuse. And if you don’t want us to have a wedding because you don’t want to travel, DON’T SHOW UP, WE DON’T CARE! It wouldn’t hurt us as much as him telling us not to put a deposit down for our wedding which would take place in a year just because he doubts we’ll be together. We had already been engaged for a year when all of this was said! Besides the fact that we have never given anyone any reason to doubt our relationship!
He also called us a couple weeks later to tell us to get married June 21st this year (the wedding is next year) and he and FMIL would fly out here and FFIL would be the best man.
Uh, no. You may not be the BM, we already have one. And no, we are not going to get married this year, we are getting married next year, like we said.
Basically, be prepared for people to say the meanest shit just so they don’t have to say, “We are scared of traveling to a place we’ve never been and we aren’t sure if we can afford it.”
But good luck!