(Closed) HOW did you tell your BMs in advance that you got them jewelery as their gift?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I told them to only worry about getting their shoes and dress.  Any time they asked about jewelry I said “that’s been taken care of. Don’t worry about it.”

Post # 5
5106 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@dynamic_duo: I recieved jewelry to wear for the wedding from my SIL and honestly was happy to get it. That way I knew exactly what she wanted me to wear. I wouldn’t have bought anything without clearing it with her anyway. Plus I really liked the jewelry so it was an added bonus!


Post # 6
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Mrs.tobe: I am going to give jewelry as part of their gift as well. I just told them that when they are picking out their dresses, they need to keep in mind that they will be wearing a necklace. (and earrings and hopefully a bracelet as well) they all seem to be excited to see what I come up with!

Post # 8
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

i think you can just say in your email, make sure to get your dress, shoes, etc. but don’t worry about the jewelry. or you can say i prefer if no one wears any jewelry on the wedding day and then they’ll be surprised when you have it for them.

Post # 9
5106 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@pamplemousse: ohhhhh, saying that you don’t want to them to wear jewelry is a gooooood idea!

Post # 10
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

When we were picking out dresses I just told them I’d buy them earrings.. I’m going to surprise them with robes though too

Post # 11
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I just told them not to bother with jewelry, and then gave them some. It was simple.

Post # 12
28 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

giving gifts to the bridal party is usually done at the rehearsal dinner. however, you shouldn’t expect your bridesmaids to wear the gift for your wedding day. the gift is simply to express your appreciation for their participation in your day. the best thing to do is give them the jewelry to wear for the wedding, and purchase new gifts to present them; ones with no strings attached.


good luck,


Post # 13
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I just told my BMs early on when we were discussing hair/makeup etc that I was buying them earrings as a present.  I think this made things easier so there was no confusion about them needing to buy jewellery.

Post # 14
74 posts
Worker bee

My BF’s Mother-In-Law makes jewelry and she even showed me ahead of time, heck I think all of us saw it for making sure necklace was right length. She gave us that, some cute bags that matched her colors and some slippers to waer while getting ready cause she saw them cheap and cute…

Post # 15
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

When they asked about attire for the wedding I said “Your dress, black shoes, do something with your hair and, oh yeah…don’t worry about jewelry. That’s taken care of. Now, forget I just said that.” *sly wink*  They got the point, and they Loved the jewelry!

Post # 16
4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

its nice to get them jewerly, but if you want them to wear it at your wedding it’s not really a gift for them, but a gift for you.

When I was in a wedding I got jewerly to wear, but that was not my gift.  It’s not really if I am expected to wear it.

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