(Closed) How did you/fiancé pick your engagement ring ?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Busy bee

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honeywell11ness :  My SO and I picked out a ring designer and then designed the ring together. I haven’t seen the final product yet, though!

I’d recommend at the very least, going to try some rings on with a girlfriend or by yourself, just to see what styles you really like, and communicating that to your SO in some way. I thought I liked marquis, and it turns out I don’t!

It can still be an absolute surprise – you won’t know what he picks or when, but giving him information isn’t a bad thing.

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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honeywell11ness :  He asked what I liked, I told him. 

We looked at some rings online and I showed him which ones I liked (solitaire, diamonds in the band, white gold or platinum)

He decided to go and have a mooch at rings in a store when we were in town one weekend. I went to look at clothes and *thought* he went to the music store. He actually went to the jewellers, saw a ring he liked and ordered it.

Meanwhile I’m wondering around HMV wondering why I can’t find him lmao

It’s not a ring I would have chosen, I don’t think, but I absolutely love it. I still admire it daily!

Post # 18
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

We went to the store several times and tried on rings. On the day my ring was picked I picked out several rings I liked and he made the decision between them on which one was the one.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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honeywell11ness :  I hinted that I wanted something simple with a thin band (complimenting other women on their rings that are similar to what I wanted). My proposal and ring was a complete surprise. My Fiance picked something perfect (all on his own!)

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Yay congratulations! I would also definitely recommend looking at rings on your finger, as for me it completely changed the type of ring I wanted. My Fiance had no idea about jewelry or picking it out for me, so I thought it was simplest for us to just go to a store and choose some that I liked, and then he took it from there!

Post # 21
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Blushing bee

After we had a few discussions about future plans, he asked me to start researching rings I liked.  I looked at a million pictures on Pinterest, jewelry store websites, Pricescope, and here and found that I was always drawn to the same style, a classic solitaire.  I waffled a bit on whether to go with a plain band or pave band and eventually decided to go with a plain band.  I can always get a blingy wedding band (or two) later for extra sparkle.  I also did a ton of research on diamonds and we eventually went with James Allen and got the sparkliest diamond I have ever seen!  We got the ring about a month ago (I got to try it on and we got it resized) and he is planning a “surprise” proposal which will happen sometime soon.  I think it is the best of both worlds for us…I know it is coming (I’m not a huge fan of surprises, especially where major life decisions are concerned), I got to pick the ring I wanted, and he gets to plan the actual proposal and make it special. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We went out to a few shops and I tried numerous on. At the end of the day, he had a good idea of what I liked.  It was good for both of us. I thought I liked pave. Turns out I didn’t! And I would have probably asked for that if I hadn’t agreed to shop. 

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee

He should at least know what you like even if he is going to pick out the ring completely by himself.  You should send him pics or give him ideas.  My husband and I never went into a jewelry store together to look at and try on rings before we got engaged, but he knew what I liked.  I loved the ring he got me because it suited both of our tastes. 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

I tried on rings at Tiffany’s with my friend to see what I liked. Then I went to our jeweler and we fine tuned the setting. He wrote it all down and then my boyfriend went in later to pick the center diamond. I knew it would be exactly what I wanted, but the size of the diamond was a surprise to me. I also didn’t know when it would be ready so the timing was a surprise as well, I just knew it was coming. Also, our jeweler doesn’t keep a lot of jewelry in store for security reasons so I never got to see a ring that had the exact setting I wanted, so when I saw the ring for the first time, it was a complete surprise to see it all put together.

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I went with a semi nontraditional ring (I say semi because it’s sapphire, but sapphires are technically traditional as well, and they are the second most popular stone for an ering), and I gave my s.o. pictures of various styles I’d like. He went to a local jewler and decided to just do a whole custom ring. There were a few times I went to the store by myself to hand pick the stones for my ring, which made me feel like a princess. The jeweler wasn’t allowed to tell me about pricing or give me any information about the stones in terms of quality because I have a tendency to feel guilty about spending money on things that are just for me. I apparently have expensive taste. 

So, I feel like my ring was a mixture of being surprised, and also having a decent amount of say in the ring. He made the final decisions on how ot approach my ring and piece it together, and I chose the parameters and the stones. We thought it was important that we both have a role in the ring because we do everything else together. I also opted to pay for half of the ring in the sense that we both threw money into a shared account for it. I know that seems less than romantic, but it was just really important to me to share the financial responsibility out of respect for my parents raised me to be strong and financially independent. It meant a lot to me. 

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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honeywell11ness :  Great question!  I first looked at the internet.  Then found out where the rings were sold so we could look at them in real life and I am SO GLAD I DID!!!  Every ring I thought I loved off the internet – I hated on my hand…usually because the internet pics made the side stones look substantial and the settings look strong and not delicate.  (I live on a farm and work with horses) The side stones many times were so tiny, they barely looked like ‘stones’ and the whole setting in general was never as heavy as it appeared online.

We looked at a lot of rings and I was shocked by the setting I fell in love with  – a setting much like my Grand Mothers – only with the center stone set up higher.  The setting at the store was in white gold and we wanted platinum.  It also was smaller than what we wanted so the in house jeweler custom made the setting to our specifications for thousands less than what the designer would have charged!

My Fiance said I was the one who would be wearing the ring for the rest of my life and he wanted to get a ring I would love for the rest of my life.  No surprise beats that romantic thought!!

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I knew that I wanted an emerald cut solitaire. We went to a few jewellery stores and I tried on a few different styles. I fell in love with one of the ones I tried on and that was it. He paid the deposit and proposed to me 8 months later. So the ring was not at all a surprise but his proposal definitely was as I had no idea when to expect it. Was still a totally romantic/special moment for us.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I originally went ring shopping with one of my closest friends in hopes of getting an idea of what I like so I could share that with her and tell him to ask her about what I liked/disliked when the time came. I was very surprised when rings I thought I liked just didn’t look right on my hand. Even if I saw a ring I loved in the case, sometimes I put it on my hand and just didn’t like it at all. I ended up falling in love with a solitaire ring, but there were also many solitaires I tried that I didn’t like! Because of this, I ended up just telling him the exact ring I loved and where it was from right then, so that he could just go get it when the time came haha. I always look at rings on here and find others on Pinterest that I adore, but there has not been one that changed my mind (at least not one anywhere near our budget!). He is very happy to not have to pick one out as he thinks choosing something someone else is meant to wear forever is a lot of pressure, and I agree! haha.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I went to try things on with my Future Sister-In-Law to make sure I liked on my finger what I thought I liked from looking at pictures. I also sent Fiance a pinterest board with the style I was looking for and talked to him about the metal/style I liked. He picked out the setting himself for the heirloom diamond we had, with help from Future Sister-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law. It was the perfect amount of surprise while making sure I had enough input and I’d like it 🙂

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

My husband chose my ring on his own. We weren’t even planning on getting married any time soon, he just saw a ring that he liked, bought it, and proposed to me with it 2 years later. I love it, especially because he chose it 🙂

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