(Closed) How did you/fiancé pick your engagement ring ?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Busy bee

I dropped not so subtle hints, like sending pics via text about what I liked. Worked out perfectly for me!

Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I think you should both go to see what type of ring you like. Sometimes what you think you like may not look good on your hand. Once you know what shape you like then I suggest giving him a couple pictures of rings you like. You would still be surprised because you won’t know which of the rings you showed him he will pick. Best of both worlds!

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We went and tried on rings together to get a sense of what style we liked. Then I picked a setting and left it to him. I didnt see my actual ring until he popped the question.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

we had talked about things I liked and things I didn’t like, after the fact I found out he had made a list of his phone.  We had looked at pictures online in a very vague like/don’t like manner.  He shopped by himself and surprised me with a great proposal and a ring that I love.

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I pinned a few different solitaires, all pretty similar, and able to purchase off of etsy. We had previously discussed and he wanted to buy off of etsy so I tried to make it easy. I was surprised when he proposed on Christmas morning, I wasn’t expecting it yet and the ring was a surprise too! He went to a local Jeweler and they chose a setting to put his grandmothers diamond in. I love it even more than the pictures I pinned! But they are pretty similar.

I think this is the ring he modeled it after:

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And this is my ring!:

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Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

He was on his own for mine!! HAHA! I’m not a picky person, the meaning of the ring means more to me than the look! From other jewlery I’ve bought, he knows I like simple yet elegant, no big gems, and I love my rose gold 🙂

After he proposed he talked about all of his thoughts leading up to the proposal; and he said when he went shopping, he went to EVERY (very dramatic) ring store around him. He knew he had found the right one when he picked up the same ring twice at two different stores! He said he thought about getting something custom-made but knew it would be at a cost that I wouldn’t be too happy 😉 nor would it be as intricate as the one he picked.

It just got resized and I’m getting in a couple days so here it is with my FH 🙂

Post # 37
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Busy bee

The short version; we picked them our together ☺

Post # 38
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Helper bee

I picked my setting out, and he picked my diamond. It worked out perfectly because I have a ring I don’t mind wearing every day for the rest of my life and he didn’t need to stress out about picking something I would be happy with – but even though I had a hand in picking it out, I can look at the diamond and know that he put in a lot of effort and research and thought, and even though my diamond is modest, it’s the highest quality stone I’ve ever seen in person and it means a lot to me that he put that much effort into it. 

 

I’d try rings on first though – the three types of rings I thought I liked because they look so beautiful on other women I ended up not liking on my hand. I ended up with a ring I never would have imagined being so in love with. 

Post # 39
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2018

This might be a little different for me, because my grandmother left me her engagement ring (but my dad had it in his safe deposit box).  My fiance asked my dad for the ring, and he proposed to me with my grandmother’s ring.  We both went to the jeweler to pick a new setting together the next day.

I liked this approach becauase I had NO idea it was coming.  I also had no idea what kind of ring I wanted until I went to the jeweler to try rings on.

I agree with all the previous posters who suggest trying rings on.  There’s a huge difference between seeing something online and seeing something on your finger!

Post # 40
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Helper bee

I always thought I liked cushion halos. I told my boyfriend that. Eventually we decided that we should go together to see several jewellers and when I tried on cushion halos, they did not suit me at all. So we tried on several other settings and after speaking to the jeweller, I decided on a round brilliant soliatire. It was a good choice. in the end, my bf (now husband) just came up with the funds and I ended up deciding on the design etc.

I had never tried on a ring before and I had never even thought that I would really have an engagement ring or a wedding.. In fact, when a wedding decor supplier asked me during the wedding planning, “what’s your dream wedding like?” I said “I don’t have one” and he couldn’t believe it.

I struggled with all the stress of having to come up with ideas for my ring, wedding etc because I actually had never even thought about it and I am not at all a creative person. All I wanted was a decent diamond ring and a decent wedding. But no specifics.

I think I did the right thing by trying on several different ring settings with my SO at jewellery shops and ask his opinion, then go on the internet and check out different pictures and think about it many times. Because it costs a lot to fix it afterwards.

Also, I usually hate surprises. I like to have control over everything major that happens to me so yeah (although this difficult personality did become a lot softer after the 1st year of marriage).

One thing I regret though is being so stressed over it. I wish I had enjoyed my engagement and didn’t have my wedding so soon after the engagement. I got engaged and then we got married within 8 months (partly due to my parents’ pressure and them not understanding why on earth would you have more than 6 month engagement..they weren’t happy with 8 months engagement because where they were born and bred, they don’t have engagement or wedding planning..it is extremely easy for brides, they go to a shop and buy a package and they all do it for the bride…I was so burnt out planning and working trying to the best of everything…)

Good luck and just enjoy the fun!

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

My fiancé and I went ring shopping together because we both wanted to get ideas of what we liked. I had set out to get a 3 stone, and got something completely different and unique because I ended up not liking how the 3 stone looked in person. Instead I ended up getting the ring I fell in love with on Pinterest and couldn’t get out of my head!

You don’t necessarily have to go ring shopping together BUT you really should give him a couple pictures to go off of. That way he can have an idea of what you like beforehand and be confident in his selection that YOU will like it. If you want it to be special, then give him your ideas and to tell him to pick the one he loves most and thinks fits you the best. ALSO, try to get your ring size ahead of time so you don’t have to be without it after the big day 😉

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Costa Rica

My fiancé and I went to about 6 diamond stores together. He wanted to make me happy but really didn’t have a clue about diamond shopping and frankly wasn’t really wanting to learn (he works night and it’s tough for him). If it was up to him he would just buy w/e was nice and that’s it. But buying a diamond can be stressful and you can pay more for less and I really didn’t want him to get ripped off so I took charge! one day after I dropped my son to school I went to the diamond district I found my diamond and setting myself! My Fiance did the rest. I got the BEST in his budget! I love my ring! 

Post # 43
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

My fiancé went ring shopping with his grandma, and his grandma helped him pick it out for me. It was really sweet.

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

First one was inspired by all those pretty besels on Pinterest, we went to a jeweler to find something looking alike and the result was disastrous.

For second I searched eBay, looking for setting simple and classic, and good quality stone within our price range. It turned out great!

Post # 45
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Helper bee

He bought the loose stone and then I custom designed the setting based off a few rings I liked.  He didnt let me see the finished ring until he proposed.  

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