(Closed) How did your first look work? (I am clueless)

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Did/should your bridal party witness the first look
    Yes but from a distance like a balcony overlooking the first look : (17 votes)
    16 %
    NO keep it private : (74 votes)
    69 %
    Yes them being in the background is great and they can see the reaction! : (6 votes)
    6 %
    Yes AND include parents : (7 votes)
    6 %
    Other : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    708 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2004

    Tagging in. I’m interested to see how this works as well

    Post # 4
    3276 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    No one but the photographer will be witnessing our first look. The GMs would be annoying so we’re just having the limo pick us up (him blindfolded) until we get to the garden, he’s lead to the middle of the bridge turned around and I’ll walk up behind him. After we’re dropped off the limo will pick up the wedding party and bring them over for the wedding party pics. I’d feel super awkward if the parents were there and wouldn’t be myself. 

    Post # 5
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015
    Post # 6
    7649 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @excitedtobeMRSF:  I don’t think its necessary for them to be in on the first look, but we certainly had onlookers. My Maid/Matron of Honor carried my train for me. Darling Husband had his back turned to me. Maid/Matron of Honor made my train all nice, and then Darling Husband turned around, and we had the first look.

    Honestly I don’t think my Maid/Matron of Honor or anyone else being there took away from the first look. However, if the photographer wants it to happen that way because he/she wants a photo where everyone is looking then I find it weird. I didn’t want my first look planned that way. Besides, that is your moment. Not your family’s/wedding party’s.

    Post # 7
    4947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @excitedtobeMRSF:   We’re planning to have our first look include us and the photographers.   That special, private moment is something we are both looking forward to very much.   I’d feel awkward having onlookers and so would Fiance.

    Plan what makes you feel comfortable!

    Post # 8
    783 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    @excitedtobeMRSF:  For my sisters wedding, they did it on a bridge type setting (hard to explain, it wasn’t actually a bridge…) but they were together in that area, and the bridal party was kind of hiding behind 1 of the photographers…I think the groomsmen were on the other side but I’m not 100% sure.

    Post # 10
    375 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We did a mock ceremony type thing. The bridal party went and stood in their places, my husband stood where he would stand for the ceremony, and our parents stood where they were going to sit for the ceremony. Then my dad walked me down the aisle! It was very special just being with the most important people in our lives for that and my dad was still able to walk his baby girl down the aisle before my husband saw me. If that makes sense. My dad wasn’t really into taking pictures beforehand but this helped him 🙂

    Post # 11
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

    We had the first look right before all the wedding party photos, so everyone was hanging around.

    I will say that I’m not a huuuuge fan of the tapping on the shoulder thing lots of people do, so instead I had hoped he would stand around a corner (we were outside by a lighthouse!) and be facing my direction, but wouldn’t see me until I reached the corner.  Instead, he ended up facing away from me, and when I got close-ish, i yelled “You can turn around now!” which wasn’t nearly as graceful or elegant as I hoped.  

    Post # 12
    1992 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    pshhhh I think the first look is super sweet and private between you and your Fiance – I had a blind folded first look and I just wanted it to be me and Darling Husband and a photographer… it turned out that I forgot the super cute blind fold up stairs and so my photog just used a nearby napkin and tied it on half hazardly… regrets, regrets… oh well!

    Here’s a little photo recap:

    and then here in our wedding video its cute to see Darling Husband sigh cuz he was nervous and see us both smile and giggle a little – fastforward to :40 for just the first look: https://vimeo.com/50395606


    I would do it all over again – I loved that we got to spend a second alone and be all excited in our fancy pants outfits together.

    Have fun with it!


    Post # 13
    8604 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Ours was completely private. I would not have wanted anyone else there personally.

    Post # 14
    1098 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    For ours the photographer led Darling Husband to a orange grove and just started taking solo portraits with him, while that was happened his mom came and got me from the bridal suite and led me around the back of the grove to I could walk up from behind him. It was completely private and I honestly would not have wanted it any other way. 

    Post # 15
    5660 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @excitedtobeMRSF:  I didn’t mind doing the first look at all, but I do wish it had been private. If I could do it over again, no one would have been around but us and the photographers. It toally takes away from the privacy and intimacy of the moment when the bridal party is milling about adjusting things and talking.

    ETA: I would stress this even MORE knowing that you aren’t keen on the idea, that you need privacy. And it’s not your FSIL’s “right” to see your first look, she can see a first look on her own wedding day. And the photographers can certainly recreate a photo later on!

    Post # 16
    834 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

    @excitedtobeMRSF:  For Darling Husband and I, our first look was very private and intimate. I wouldn’t have wanted anyone else there.

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