(Closed) How did your IL’s deal w/ name change?

posted 11 years ago in Names
Post # 3
1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My inlaws loved it. I had NO problem changing my name, never was proud of it and have hated it since birth. Dad issues or lack there of. They said they were proud to give me their name and I told my Father-In-Law whom I dearly love that I was very proud and honored to take their name.

Post # 4
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i didnt change my name and both my mum and Mother-In-Law dont get it.  i tell them im too old to have to learn how to write a entirely new name

i dont like hubbys surname – its too anglo and boring.

Post # 5
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009


You may know that I eventually changed my name, but that it’s been a secret. Seriously, only people who will send me tax forms and my Darling Husband know.I didn’t decide until more than a month after the wedding. I use my maiden name (own name!) socially. This probably speaks to how uncomfortable it still makes me.

My IL’s were basically not accepting the fact that I told them that I would not be changing my name. At the wedding, we had not decided what to do, and we both told them that I am keeping my name and we may reconsider later.

I got checks addressed to my new lastname. From the same people that were told what’s up at the wedding. I got a wedding invitation from his cousin that was addressed to Mr. & Mrs. Herb Smith. Not our names, you know, but the same idea — basically this wasn’t following etiquette because it didn’t spell Herbert, but rather Herb, and didn’t list me with my own name even though the STD did. I feel almost like they are sending mail just to write out my name!!

I brought up with him the possibility of him taking my name, even though I didn’t consider it a real possibility, because I wanted him to get an idea of how such a drastic change feels, and it’s not “just a name” like stick and stones… but words can never hurt me.

I really would have though Mother-In-Law would be accepting of me keeping my name. She told me that I should change it, even if I didn’t want to, because it would be easier. My family has had no problems with it.

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