(Closed) How did your officiant politely tell your guests to keep their cell phones

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

bump

not sure how this fell between the cracks.  I know quite a few Bees have done it  

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@GroovyHippieChick:  Getting married soon. I forgot all about this too!!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t remember exactly how mine worded it, but it was something along the lines of “out of respect for the bride and groom’s special day, we kindly as that you turn off your cell phones.”

Aaand of course, because the announcement was made before the processional, my dad wasn’t reminded and his phone went off during our vows… was just one of those things we had to laugh off.  Otherwise, I would’ve grabbed the phone out of his hands and tossed it in the lake.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Maybe if you have ushers seating people, as they do, they can talk to the people about their phones?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

Maybe put a note in the program?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsZippyMouse:  Yeah, something like this, although IIRC ours said it while we were already up front (unless I’m confusing the wedding and the rehearsal, which is always a possibility). At the same time, he also asked for no flash photography. It wasn’t particularly subtle, but it worked.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

We didn’t make an announcement because I figured it was COMMON SENSE and my DH’s grandmother’s cell phone rang…during his vows…and she answered it!!!!! To make it even worse, she was standing about 3 feet behind him…so all I could hear was her awkwardly trying to be quiet and get off the phone, and not on his vows. One mini-cry session during a private moment and I was fine with it, now I just laugh it off.

Have your officiant make this announcement ASAP. I would do it as part of the greeting. MrsHart2Bee & Fiance are so thankful to see you here. Please take a moment and silent your cell phones and put away your electronic devices so you fully join them in the experience they are about to share…

Something of that nature.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Unplugged wedding
We want you to be able to really enjoy our wedding day, feeling truly present and in the moment with us. We’ve hired an amazing wedding photographer named _________ who will be capturing the way the wedding looks — and we’re inviting each of you to sit back, relax, and just enjoy how the wedding feels. We’re respectfully asking that everyone consider leaving all cameras and cell phones off. Of course we will happy to share our wedding photos with you afterward!

You could include a short note in your programs:

We want you to be able to relax and have fun with us today! This in mind, we invite you to put down all your favorite devices and just be present in the moment with us. Please leave your camera in your bag (we’ve got photography covered!), and put your cell phone on mute (we promise they’ll call back!).

We’re happy to share our professional wedding photos later, but the greatest gift you can give us today is just being fully here with us in this sacred and special moment.

Offbeat Bride Tribe member Aron is including this text in her program:

The bride and groom have asked that you share in their wedding fully and not through the lens of a camera or cell phone

No Pictures Please
We are honored that you are here today and present with us during the ceremony. Two photographers are covering the ceremony. We request that you refrain from photography during the entire ceremony. We promise that there will be plenty of images at your disposal!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

At the wedding…

Enforcing unplugging

Appoint a member of your wedding party to help encourage other guests to put down their devices at the wedding. It doesn’t have to be high-drama: all they have to do is sidle up to their fellow guest and say quietly, “The bride and groom have asked me to respectfully suggest guests to put down their electronics and just enjoy the day. Can I ask you to put your camera/phone away?” Whatever you do, don’t rely on your photographer to be the heavy; it’s not their job to make your guests behave. Plus, when the request to put away the camera or phone comes from a fellow guest, it’s less likely to be seen as a grumpy encounter.

Wording ideas for officiants

The easiest way to remind your guests to power down their devices is to have your officiant make a brief announcement before the ceremony. A few ideas, ranging from the sacred to the silly:

Spiritual:

The couple respectfully requests that all guests honor the sanctity of this moment by turning off cell phones and cameras.

Emotional:

I invite you to be truly present at this special time. Please, turn off your cell phones and put down your cameras. The photographer will capture how this momentlooks — I encourage you all to capture how it feels with your hearts, without the distraction of technology.

Ridiculous:

Ladies and gentlemen, prior to wedding take-off, all seat backs and tray tables must be in their upright and locked positions, all bags properly stowed, and all portable electronic devices turned off and stowed. This includes cell phones and cameras.

Thanks to Offbeat Bride Tribe member Rockwell for this one:

As Shakespeare once said, please turn off your cell phones.

Offbeat Bride Tribe member Cat named mouse shared this anecdote:

At my best friend’s wedding, the rabbi asked the bride to turn around and face the audience after her parents walked her to the alter. At this time he said, “Everyone, get the photo you really want now, because we ask that your cameras remain off for the remainder of the ceremony.”

Jessie Blum of Eclectic UnionsThey ♥ OBB; we ♥ them uses this template:

Good afternoon! It is my pleasure to welcome you to the wedding of Name and Name. Please take a moment to silence any cell phones or other noisy electronics. If you would also take a moment to put your cameras away, Jody and Steven have requested that no photos be taken during the ceremony today — thank you so much for your understanding. The ceremony will begin shortly.

Printable signs for ceremony venue

http://offbeatbride.com/2011/06/unplugged-wedding-templates

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know I came across poems, templates etc for an “unplugged wedding” I haven’t decided how I feel yet about turning off cameras yet but cell phones are a must!! no ringing or texting or FB during the ceremony 😉 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The inconsiderate people won’t read the program anyway. I suggest the officiant says something at the start of the ceremony, just before the procession. I’ve seen it done at funerals, so why not weddings. Getting ushers to ask (individually, as people go in) is perhaps even a better idea.

I don’t like the no cameras suggestion at all. Let guests take their own, then you’ve got more to choose from. And they don’t disrupt. Besides. I love hearing all the cameras click during the kiss!

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