(Closed) How did your parents react?

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: How did your parents react to your engagement?

    Loved it! Over the moon happy!

    Happy, but not over the top.

    Eh. They were ok.

    They didn't say no.

    They weren't happy, but now they love it.

    They weren't happy, they're silent on the matter now.

    They weren't happy, they still aren't happy.

    I still haven't told them.

    We stopped speaking over the matter.

  • Post # 32
    1839 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    They were surprised… I didn’t even have a boyfriend and suddenly I was engaged.

    I don’t think they actually believed we were serious. They’d never even met him before. And when they did meet him, it took a while for them to warm up (DH has a deep voice and a sarcastic sense of humor).

    Post # 33
    1075 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    All of them were ecstatic!

    Post # 34
    1114 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Lol I love that movie! In high school I was in the play version 🙂

    My parents are very laid back, and they were caught a bit off guard I think, so they were both kinda “oh that’s great…!” FI’s mom, on the other hand, even though she knew it was happening that day, cried happy tears when we called her 😛 She also cried when her older sons got engaged, but neither of them told her in advance. His dad’s outward enthusiasm was bigger than my parents’ but not over-the-top.

    My favorite reaction though was from my BFF though, who also knew it was happening, and screamed when we called her, in front of a random acquaintance too!

    Post # 35
    7225 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    All of our parents were over the moon.

    Post # 36
    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    My dad and step-mom and brother and Fi’s family were and still are totally estatic!

    However my mom’s reaction was kind of lack luster, she was excited for us, but I feel like she doesn’t care. She won’t help me with anything and makes me feel like i’m being any annoyance when i text/email her with my wedding ideas =[ hoping her reaction will be more like everyone elses as the date gets close.

    Post # 37
    462 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    My mom was absolutely elated!!  She was so excited!  My dad was pretty darn happy too.  Turns out my Fiance had asked for my hand when they came to visit us to drop their dog off to babysit.  We went to the mall, Mom and I went shopping and we left the Fiance and Dad at a restaurant to hang out and have a drink.  We came back about 2 hours later, maybe, and my dad was bombed, absolutely shit faced and tickled pink.  Mom and I wondered how he had managed to get that drunk in such a short span but chalked it up to an empty stomach.  The day we got engaged Fiance told me he had asked my dad for my hand that day and they took a couple shots and my dad was so happy he kept right on celebrating.  My mom was shocked dad managed to keep it a secret for all those months!  

    His parents were pretty excited too.

    Post # 38
    4996 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    They were happy but no one did anything crazy. We live far away from them though…maybe we would have seen them react “over the moon” if it wasn’t on the phone. 

    Post # 39
    1762 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @renwoman:  My parents already knew because he had called them two days prior to ask their blessing. But they were definately “over the moon” excited and so were his.

    Post # 40
    939 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Both sets of parents were over the moon excited!

    We have a long history.  We met when we were 13 and dated all through high school and most of college.  My Fiance proposed the first time when we were both 20.  While his parents loved me and my parents loved him, they thought we were much too young to be engaged, even though we had not planned on getting married until after we graduated.

    We broke up during my last year of undergrad and we had no contact for 7 years.  It didn’t help that my mom and his mom were and still are very good friends.  His mom was crushed when we broke up.  I had since gotten engaged to another guy but we broke up last November.

    We got back together this past January and now-FI started talking to my parents way back in March about him proposing to me.  My parents gave him their blessing and told him to take it slow with me.

    Long story short, Fiance proposed on August 3 and we are getting married December 28 Smile  His parents – especially his mom – were so stoked that we got back together and got engaged again.  My parents were obviously very happy as well!

    Post # 41
    1517 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    It went a lot better than I expected, there was no anger/yelling, my father has instead opted for making a million tiny digs at me and Fiance every chance he can

    Post # 42
    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My parents were thrilled! They knew before I did; he called them earlier that week and asked for their blessing to join the family. NOT for permission to marry me–that was MY decision. Smile

    My Mom is really dramatic when she’s happy. When I called my parents to tell them the news, they were on vacation and riding a tour bus. Mom screamed and started telling everyone on the bus, “MY DAUGHTER IS GETTING MARRIED!” I couldn’t even see what was going on, and it was still hilarious.

    So yeah, happy!

    Post # 43
    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Mimoza:  I was all aww, how sweet! until I saw the word “traumatizing.”

    And then I cracked up! Hope it wasn’t too bad.

    Post # 44
    526 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Narrawallee reserve/beach & Mollymook golf club

    Had we asked them first they would have discouraged it seeing as I was still only 19 at the time. The timing was all wrong – I had intended to tell them when I went back to visit for the weekend but one of Mum’s best friends died the day before I came home. They weren’t so much upset about the engagement itself as the timing – they wished we had’ve waited another year or so. We’ve had a long engagement though! 3 years!

    Post # 45
    361 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My MIL’s reaction was the best. We went over to their house to and she was sitting on the couch and was apologetic for not getting up because she was so tired.  DH works in the family business and he started talking about some business thing and then blurts out mid-sentence “we’re engaged.” She instantly jumped off the couch to hug us. It was so funny because she had just finished telling us she was so tired she could hardly move. 

    My dad lives out of state so we called him and I put him on speaker phone so he knew something was up.  I asked if he knew what we had to tell him and he said “I think so but tell me!” He was so happy he started crying. I wish we could have told him in person but we were so excited we didn’t want to wait. 🙂 

    Post # 46
    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Fiance called my dad the night before he proposed to ask for his blessing.  I get the sense that 1) my dad never expected a call, ever and 2) my parents figured we’d wait a little longer.  There was some stunned silence on the other end of the phone, followed by “if that’s what will make you both happy, then you have our support.”

    They were very happy and supportive when I called to tell them post-proposal.  If I had to guess, I’d say my parents were almost certainly critical of getting engaged at 22 with very little other relationship experience, but if that’s true, they kept it to themselves, which I appreciate immensely.

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