(Closed) How did your parents react?

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: How did your parents react to your engagement?

    Loved it! Over the moon happy!

    Happy, but not over the top.

    Eh. They were ok.

    They didn't say no.

    They weren't happy, but now they love it.

    They weren't happy, they're silent on the matter now.

    They weren't happy, they still aren't happy.

    I still haven't told them.

    We stopped speaking over the matter.

  • Post # 47
    1608 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    My parents were over the moon happy. My mom screamed into the phone and started crying and when she told my dad he started crying too haha. 

    Post # 48
    838 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I voted ‘eh’.  FI told his parents by phone (we were away when we got engaged).  Don’t think it was a big shock to them, as we are both in our 40s and he’d mentioned his intentions to his mother beforehand.  His father, on the other hand…over a year and a half after we got engaged, he asked Fiance if he ‘really loved Sekhmet’. Something 2 years later I’m still angry about…


    My mother?  Not told her, even though we’ve been engaged over 3 years.  Don’t really want to tell her.  She lives on the opposite of the world, our relationship is far from good and she doesn’t know the meaning of the words ’emotional support’, so I tell her virtually nothing about my personal life.  


    Post # 49
    1908 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    My parents were thrilled, they were the only ones who really knew the proposal was coming soon too. Fiance had talked to my Dad about a month before proposing.

    FI’s Mother Reaction “Well, it’s about time!”

    His Dad was also very happy for us and told Fiance “You found a great girl”

    Post # 50
    1368 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My parents knew when my DH was going to propose.  My mom was over the moon happy for us – and my dad was just happy.  Although now I think my mom is more excited since she knows we are TTC!

    Post # 51
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My mom was thrilled. Granted, Fiance had called her to ask permission/let her know ahead of time so she knew it was coming. However, my mom told me to call my grandmother before I posted it on facebook and her response was “well, if that’s what you want, dear, then that’s okay.” 

    Post # 52
    7384 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My mom didn’t say anything at all (and still hasn’t), as far as congratulations goes. Butttt she did help out with some stuff for the wedding and seemed happy at the wedding. I saw her yesterday and she said, “Hello, Mrs. married lady!” So…

    DH’s parents were SO. FREAKING. HAPPY. We went over to FIL’s house to tell them in person and had to wait because his stepmom was out. His little sister saw my ring and I had to clamp my hand over her mouth so that she didn’t ruin the surprise lol.

    Post # 53
    1298 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    My parents are insanely INSANELY excited. My FI’s parents are about to find out in 3 weeks. He’s telling them in person. I do not expect the same level of excitement there..haha.

    Post # 54
    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    It was a very strange reaction. They were EXTREMELY happy but suddenly, they turned on my sister (also engaged and had been so for 1 year already) and said “See, your big sister is doing it right. You are so young and stupid. No wonder we’re having to pay for your wedding and your sister can do it all on her own.” It went on and on but holy crap, did it ever ruin the mood for me.

    Post # 55
    4113 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @renwoman:  my Fiance took my parents out for a nice meal long before officially asking me and they were beside themselves with happiness. Within a week of that meal (I hadn’t even come close to zeroing in on a ring at that point) we had already been to 2 bridal shows and she had a folder going of ideas.

    When he officially proposed, they were even more excited and threw a big party. I’m not sure sure I could go through with a wedding to someone that my parents didn’t have that type of reaction to. They mean so much to me and if they didn’t love my Fiance, I would proceed with caution.

    Post # 56
    2354 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @LibrarianTellsAll:  Haha you’re sweet :P. I guess I can be as dramatic as your mother sometimes, because it was just slightly shocking haha.

    They were so happy for me and I had to jump right into talking about the ring, what I felt, what he said, when we’re getting married, have some cake, have a drink, ‘when will we get a grandchild?’….that I was like “WHOA! I’ll take that drink now thanks”. But it was all out of love, so I enjoyed it! 🙂 

    Post # 57
    628 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m not even engaged yet… But in serious talks with SO and my Mom is thrilled about it.  She sent him a family request on facebook.  If I call her and am in a particularly bubbly mood she will be like OMG did you get a ring.  I’m always like Geeze Mom when I get a ring you will be the first to know!


    I asked SO if his parents would be happy and he said yes.  They have 3 boys and I am quite the girly girl so I am kind of like a new fun creature for them.  I think they are somewhat entertained by me. haha


    Unfortunately I do not have a good relationship with my Dad so I am going to have to have an awkward phone call to him before I make anything too public.  Even though I don’t really care for the man I don’t want to stir the pot more and have him find out from an aunt on facebook. 

    Post # 58
    3583 posts
    Sugar bee

    My parents were SO happy!! I think they were relieved that I actually found someone to put up with me since they think I can be very difficult LOL

    Post # 59
    12 posts
    • Wedding: November 2012

    My parents, especially my mom, were definitely “over the moon happy” haha.  It happened around Christmastime so when we were at mom’s side of the family’s big Christmas party she was getting impatient because I’m not the type of person who was all “HEY guess what everybody look look look!!”  I would have been fine with waiting a bit and being generally low-key about it.

    So as I was talking to an aunt and a cousin she finally said “OK SOMEBODY ASK FIREFERRET WHAT SHE GOT FOR CHRISTMAS!” haha. 

    Post # 60
    3525 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Mine were happy. They love FH, and knew it was coming soonish. 

    His dad’s reaction was basically, “Wait… what? Okay…” Disappointing, to say the least. I don’t know what his mom thought.

    Post # 61
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My parents were very happy. They love Fiance and our engagement was 6 years in the making, so they were excited it was finally happening.

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