(Closed) How did your parents/close family react to your engagement?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: How did your parents react to your engagement?
    They were thrilled! They started crying/screaming/laughing/getting all excited. : (33 votes)
    22 %
    They were really happy for us, and gave us tons of congrats. : (57 votes)
    37 %
    They said congratulations, and seemed happy about it. : (24 votes)
    16 %
    They wanted to make sure we were doing the right thing before they extended any congrats. : (8 votes)
    5 %
    They were OK with it, but seemed skeptical. : (12 votes)
    8 %
    They did not approve and they let us know it, but they've come around since. : (4 votes)
    3 %
    They did not approve and they still don't. : (3 votes)
    2 %
    They were FURIOUS and now they won't even talk to me about the wedding. : (3 votes)
    2 %
    I didn't tell them/they wouldn't care/they are not involved in my life. : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    My FI’s family and I got along really well until a few months prior to our engagement. They were all so lukewarm, it wasn’t even funny.  Mr. Dan did an AMAZING job picking out my ring, and they barely even gave it a once-over!  We have been engaged for a year, and only once have they asked about the wedding.

     My mom was dissappointed, as she thinks marriage is an out-dated institution.  At least we were excited!

    Post # 4
    Member
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Well, my Fiance told them all (except 1 sister – I have 4) about the proposal before it happened, and I think the general response was congrats, excitment, and a lot of "It’s about time!".. we have been dating for 7 years.. and his mom actually reacted the same way.

    My 1 sister that heard it from me, however, was all excited and in tears for parts of my proposal story. It was over the phone, so I actually interuppted myself to ask, "Are you crying? WHY are you crying??" I think she’s just overly sensitive, though. =]

    Post # 5
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    778 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    My parents were happy.  My sister, not so much.  She had recently gotten engaged to her bf of 4 years and thought that my FH and I were rushing (we had known each other less than a year).  She was very vocal to me, my family, my FH, and anyone that would listen.  She is now married and is my Maid/Matron of Honor and has gotten used to the idea, has gotten to know my FH better and although she isn’t apologetic about her past behavoir is trying to make up for it now.

    Post # 7
    Member
    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm

    My Family was really excited!  They knew before it happened, and had such a hard time keeping the secret inside.  Afterwards they were full of congratulations, as was my extended family!  My Fiance family on the other hand were happy for us, but didn’t seem at all excited.  I know that they like me, so I can’t imagine the lack of excitement had to do with disappointment, I guess they are just not as excitable as my family!

    Post # 10
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    631 posts
    Busy bee

    My parents had been a party to my 4/5 months of "I’m a little annoyed that he hasn’t proposed" talks.  So they were really happy and releived when chicagohusband proposed!  They said lots of congrats, but no squealing or crying (also just not their personalities).

    Post # 11
    Member
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Thanks MarquiseMiss… you cant make some people happy, you know?

    Post # 12
    Member
    1379 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I can’t believe I’m about to post this because it is the worst picture of me EVER … but this is a picture of my mom handing me the DOZEN wedding magazines she accumulated over the two weeks between when my fiance asked for my parents permission (so traditional) and the surprise party that all of our family and friends were invited to immediately after he proposed. It’s a big stack of magazines! 

    Needless to say everyone was amazingly excited and since it was so soon (literally I thought we were just going out to dinner, but I was surprised by 30 of our family and friends at the restaurant!) it overwhelmed me like woah!

     

     

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    Post # 13
    Member
    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Mine don’t actually know yet (I don’t have a ring yet, and I wanted to wait to "announce" it until I do), but I voted "They were thrilled!" because I know they will be.  My family LOVES my Fiance and his family loves me, and our parents even love each other.  Srsly, it’s a lovefest. My mom will probably cry, even if I just tell her over the phone.  She cries at the drop of a hat about any happy or sad event related to her children. 🙂 

    Some members of my family might be a bit surprised, since I’m a little younger than I thought I would be when I got married, but no one will be unhappy.  (I’m also the youngest sibling in my immediate family and will be the first of us to be married.)

    Post # 14
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    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    My mom and dad already knew. Fi called my parents in Cali only to find out my dad was on a business trip to VA. My mom was so excited she called my aunt (but later told me she told no one). Than she called my brother. Fiance proposed in Vegas (my brother was in Vegas too) so i called him and he goes "Oh yeah mom already told me." She was so excited. My grandma cried and was so excited.

    Post # 15
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    154 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I didn’t have such a positive reaction from my parents.  I have rather traditional asian parents, and they have always been super protective and strict.  When I told them about the engagement they treated the situation as if I had told them I found a boyfriend.  They kept trying to tell me that I don’t know my fiance well enough (I’ve been with my fiance for 3.5 years now) and that I deserve someone better.  Of course this makes no sense to me since my parents only knew each other for a month before getting married.  It’s been a tough battle, and I’m trying to include more details about the wedding in baby steps.  I feel like there’s more pressure for me because I will be their first daughter to marry someone Asian (three other sisters have been with and married caucasians).  Sigh.  I’m glad that I have the support of my in laws and friends to get me through this.

    Post # 16
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    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee

    My parents were BEYOND excited when we got engaged.  Fiance asked their permission first so they knew ahead of time (he waited about two wks later) and in the meantime like Humarock, my mom purhcased magazines, books, etc.  Other family members and friends were pretty excited.

    No one was partuclarly surprised, though, since we’d been dating for 7 years.  We got a few "it’s about damn time" comments! 

    FI’s family is not as ushy gushy as mine and while excited, they were not crying tears of joy.  They also knew in advance and his mom helped with the ring!

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