(Closed) How did your parents/parent-in-laws react??

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 32
757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah my Future Mother-In-Law reacted super weirdly, my Fiance called her on the phone and told her and she basically had no reaction. She said that she was surprised, but no one has any idea why since we have been together for a really long time, are both 27 and have talked to her about it in the past. After my Fiance said “Mom, you are supposed to be happy for me” she told him that she was just overwhelmed with planning his sister’s wedding and she didn’t mean to be weird. It was bizarre, but now that she has adjusted she is super happy for us. 

Post # 33
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I can totally relate. When Darling Husband asked my parents for their blessing before proposing, they said “not yet” three times!!!! They ended up making him wait an entire year and my dad even said at one point that he just didn’t think we were that serious. I guess he just thought it was a 2 1/2 year fling! We were super frustrated about the whole thing because in my mind Darling Husband was asking a mostly rehtorical question – I didn’t know saying no was even a choice! However, I guess the fourth time was a charm in our case. Darling Husband is a saint – so patient and understanding. Anyway it was well worth the wait and their hearts were in the right place. Now we have their full support. They funded our gorgeous wedding and are so happy for us. It’s amazing how quickly things turn around if you’re a little extra patient!

Post # 34
3356 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

we didn’t get a big reaction either, mostly because it was expected. My in-laws were the ones who brought the ring up for Darling Husband (they live in another city) when they visited. he had already asked my parents.

Post # 35
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was very lucky in that both sets of parents were very happy for us. DH’s mom knew it was coming (she was holding on to the ring for him actually) and Darling Husband had asked my dad for permission, so he was in the loop too! Only person that didn’t know it was coming was my mom, and she was super excited!

Post # 36
900 posts
Busy bee

Well, if I had come to my parents at 20 years old and said I was getting married, they wouldn’t have been thrilled. So I can see the point of view of your FI’s parents. Plus, it sounds like they feel they were blindsided by a somewhat controversial decision. Your Fiance should have spoken to them about it beforehand. Sorry, I just think that’s the proper thing to do.

Post # 37
895 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We sent out a mass text telling our families we had finally decided to get married on such and such date. The consensus was pretty much “it’s about time” and some congratulations thrown in the mix.

Post # 38
3829 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Our favourite reactions were from our neighbours!! They were over the moon (pretty sure they were drunk) and we loved it. 

Future Father-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law were very happy and wanted to have a drink to celebrate. And my mom said “he didnt ask your father”. so my Fiance asked my dad who said “damn straight you will!”

haha everyone knew we were going to get married so it wasn’t a shock. 

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