(Closed) How did your shower situation go?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

MissHockey:  I don’t think I will be having a shower either .  It hurts because I am the first of my parent’s daughter’s to be getting married throught the church were as my two other sisters just did the court and didn’t have anything big.  My parents aren’t paying for the wedding, my Fiance and I are.  My dad is retired and all the income he has now is from that.  I expressed to my sister that I want a shower but then at the same time I feel guilty because I know my parents wouldn’t be able to afford it.  His parents already asked if we were having one and my Fiance told them no.  I keep trying to convince my Fiance for us to have one but he does not want one.  My parents wanted to have a shower for the both of us but it doesn’t seem like that’s going to happen.  I am truly bummed.  Don’t feel bad about the way you are feeling.  This is suppose to be the happiest time of our lives and sometimes things just don’t go the way we planned them.  Good luck.

Post # 4
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1612 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My bridesmaids threw my shower and I gave them a guest list for invites. The list included the women from my family and my fiance’s family as well as friends. There were about 40 people there and it was a really nice afternoon. I would talk to your Maid/Matron of Honor about it. She might already be thinking about a shower and your fiance’s family might be stepping on their toes. Good luck 🙂

Post # 5
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1558 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

MissHockey:  I think that you have a good situation.

1. Your fiance’s family wants to throw a shower for his side of the family and your bridesmaids. Let them.

2. Your Maid/Matron of Honor has offered to host a shower. This can be one that includes your friends and your family, since they are not invited to the one on your fiance’s side of the family.

In this situation, the only potential overlap is for your bridesmaids, and you can probably let them know that you don’t expect double the gifts.

Post # 6
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721 posts
Busy bee

I think this is quite simple.

You can ask your Mother-In-Law if you can invite your side of the family to her shower and your Maid/Matron of Honor will contribute financially to help pay for the additional people or your Maid/Matron of Honor can host a separate shower for your side of the family.

Showers don’t have to be expensive. They can be as simple as inviting people over to someone’s house for afternoon tea and cookies.

Post # 7
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1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

MissHockey:  Yeah, after all it is about marrying him and celebrating that love for each other 

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