(Closed) How do bachelorette parties work?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
Member
1346 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Your Maid/Matron of Honor needs to step up… or just let your sister take control.

The way the ones I have attend have worked are:

Where and when is usually at the discrestion of the Bridal Party… taking into account the brides wants and interests. For some of my friends, going to dinner and the club was the thing, or others, a weekend at a beachhouse.

There is usually a budget agreed upon by the girls, ie: they are willing to spend X amount for the bach.

I have one friend who only invited the girls in her wedding party to the bach, most of the bachelorettes I’ve been to have invited all the friends of the bride. Friends of the bride, not the groom’s friend’s plus ones. My mom would be invited to mine (and she would show!), my Future Sister-In-Law would be invited (but probably not come).

 

 

 

Post # 5
Hostess
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I agree with pp’s. Usually it’s a set limit. And the ones I’ve been to were mainly bridal party girls or very close friends that couldn’t be bridemaids [due to money difficulties, not even room, or w/e the case may be].

Post # 6
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1346 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@cheetah2b: Sister is totally excused.

But your Maid/Matron of Honor, she is just giving excuses. I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man and not known the other girls and I have to make plans with them regarding the wedding, so I’ve done that – including when my arch nemesis (no joke) was the Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding. “Fluffy” (as we call her) refused to call me, so I made sure that even though she was evil (LONG story), I was not going to let the bride suffer – or bring her into the drama.

The wedding I’m currently in, the bride has 9 BMs. She wrote a long email introducing everyone over the interwebs… she got the ball rolling and we kicked her off the email so we could plan her showers and bach without her.

Post # 8
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1346 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@cheetah2b:  Exactly! That’s what my bride did… maybe even ask the girls something to share with the rest… my bride asked our favorite sports teams. Partly to get the ball rolling, partly because she wasn’t sure yet what her gifts to us BMs would be… and figured while she was at it, get information on us for herself.

Maybe add something along the line of… “feel free to kick me off the email and talk amongst yourselves…”

Also, you can “suggest friends” on facebook. Why not suggest them to each other… it might help them get to know each other…

In the end, there is only SO much you can do… you’ve led them to the water… it’s up to them after that.

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