(Closed) How do I….?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3265 posts
Sugar bee

@kay01: There is no polite way to invite people to half of an event.  Either they are invited or they are not.  Besides, the reception is to thank people for coming out to celebrate with you at the ceremony.  You can’t really say that some people aren’t worth thanking for coming out.

I would send a seperate invitation to the rehersal party either via a seperate mailing or by an insert in the wedding invitation.

Post # 5
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m doing an adults only ceremony and reception. I told our family and friends months ago when we decided to do this. Also, both mothers spread the word to guests. In our invitations and wedding website, we are writing ‘Adults Only’ at the bottom in smaller print. I work in childcare so everyone with children has been passed along the messege that if they need help finding childcare, that I can help connect them to very good sitters.

I didn’t want to write the ‘adults only’ part, but when my future sister-in-law got married she wrote ‘No Children’ and addressed the envelopes accordly. She told me that a lot of people still called and asked if they could bring their children and explained why and some argued with them. They said no to everyone. You can’t make exceptions with this, otherwise people will be upset when they see a child there and they had to get a sitter. 

Another option to think about is to have a child room at the reception, or to have the kids hang out at a suite in the hotel with a couple of sitters. 

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