(Closed) How do I address an invite to married lesbian couple?

posted 7 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would go with Ms. and Ms. Smith…you don’t want to just use one first name, but they are married so you don’t want to list them separately.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think that it would be appropriate to list them as Ms. and Ms. Smith.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

Since you’re using the formal “Mr. and Mrs.” for others, I would definitely go with Ms. and Ms. for your friends.  Unless you think they’d prefer Mrs.?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think technically you are supposed to write “Mses. Mary and Alice Smith”

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I found this on the Frugal Bride.  IT also includes afull list of all titles – Doctors etc…

Lesbian Married Couple with the same last name

Outer: The Mesdames Rosie and Kellie O’Donnell  (This is the official plural of Madam/Ms)

Inner: The Mesdames O’Donnell

Lesbian Married Couple with different last names

Outer: Mrs. Rosie O’Donnell and Mrs. Kellie White

Inner:  Mrs. O’Donnell an Mrs. White

Here’s a link to the full list

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Cariad is right. Although, if they’re friends the inner envelopes could just say “Rosie and Kellie”.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Cariad:  I love that it used Rosie as an example.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@kelly105:  They are married, so I think it would be appropriate to extend the same curdosy in terms of prefix that you would to an opposite sex married couple. I’m not sure about the technicalities of addressing the envelope, but I think it would be important to make sure you don’t draw a distinction bewteen how you address same sex and opposite sex couples that are married.

Ninja Edit: forgot a word.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Cariad:  Personally I think Mesdames sounds like an ugly word! Really old-fashioned. That’s why I would probably go with Mses. Wikipedia says you can also abbreviates Mesdames into Mmes. so that’s an option too that I think looks and sounds better.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would write “Mrs. Jill Smith & Mrs. Jane Smith”

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I addressed FSIL’s as The _____ Family but in my case it wasn’t just the them, my Future Brother-In-Law lives with them as well.

 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would mirror the format you used for your other guests.  So I would do Ms. & Ms. Smith.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

I have an idea… ask them how they would like the envelope addressed? Then you’ll know for sure.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Why wouldn’t it be mrs. And mrs?

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