Post # 1
One of my besties has a boyfriend, and they are on and off all the time. Most recently they have been on for about 9 months…. and he proposed! So then they were engaged and then.. they broke it off. BUT! my bestie is willing to give the guy a second chance IF he can get his act together. So, a couple of options for addressing the invite:
1) Address it as Miss Bestie and underneath that Mr. Bestie’s Man. This is assuming they are still on.. if they aren’t, isn’t it like slap in the face? Like, “Oh, he used to be my fiance but he broke my heart!”
2) Address it as Miss Bestie and Guest, and have her do what she wants with that plus one. If they are together at that time, fine. If they aren’t it’s just a little rude that I’ve invited the fiance as “and Guest” isn’t it?
3) Address it as Miss Bestie only on the envelope but have two seats reserved in her honor on the RSVP card. This is the cowards way out, I guess.
They live together btw. Is there an option I missed? What’s appropriate for this situation? I am doing these invites from abroad so unfortunetly this can’t wait till the last second.
Post # 3
If they are living together, I would assume that they are together and write both their names on the invite. If she was really done with him, she would move out of the house.
Post # 4
She wouldn’t move out, it’s her place. Worst case scenario is that I send it to her place with both their names although he’ll be gone.
Post # 5
Since they live together, I think it’d be strange to not use his name on the invitation. I would address it both of them. If they’re so off/on, I don’t think it’s your responsibility to assess their status at every moment. I don’t think your friend would be offended, but she might be if it appeared like you were trying to avoid inviting her SO.
Post # 6
I would just address it to both of them, as she might interpret you leaving him off the invite as not being supportive. She can make the call then, and if she does decide she might bring an altnerate date she can discuss it with you later.
Post # 7
I would just ask her what she prefers for you to do. If you are really concerned about how to address it just tell her what you were thinking and see if she is okay with it. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that!