(Closed) How do I address this STD??

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
4712 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Ms. Fiance Aunt and family ?


Post # 3
1001 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!

Ms Fiance Aunt & Mr Boyfriend 

<br />and Family

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 1 month ago by  HoorayLouLou.
Post # 4
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

For just a save the date, I would just put to your Aunt. Then on the invitation, be specific. 

Post # 5
718 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I have no advice rather just laughing so hard at myself because I was expecting to open a thread about the other kind of “STD”. 


Post # 7
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013


OMGMrsW2B:  LOL I thought to myself “Why is this in Etiquette?  Is she trying to find the most polite way to talk to her partner about an STD?”  I’ve been out of the wedding planning game for a year, don’t mind me…

Post # 8
1696 posts
Bumble bee

Firmly believing as I do that dignified formality is a “better way” than is casual functionality, may I recommend:

Ms. Fiance Auntie<br />her address<br />city, State

Mr. Auntie’s Boyfriend<br />his address<br />city, State

Mr. Auntie’s Son<br />her address<br />city, State

I am assuming here that Auntie and her boyfriend have different addresses. When a lady and her coital partner have the same address, I tend to think of the other party as “husband” — de facto, if not legal — not as mere “boyfriend”. In that case, assuming you live in the United States where gentlemen’s names are included on the outside of social correspondence, I would address it to

<br />Mr. Auntie’s Boyfriend and Ms. Fiance Auntie<br />their address<br />city, State

I am assuming also that Auntie’s Son is an adult capable of handling his own social correspondence and engagements. If not, he is certainly not someone to whom you want to entrust his Mama’s social correspondence, so his name does not belong on the outside of her envelope. Instead, for a child, you mention him in the text of the correspondence inside the envelope.

Now I can imagine your shock at the notion that you should waste an extra two stamps and two envelopes when one of each would do. But an extra $1.06 is not really a show-stopper in most cases. If it is, you can save much more than that, and improve your standard of deportment as well, by simply not sending mass-printed save-the-date notices. Proper etiquette quails a little at the idea of commanding friends to Save The Date. Instead, proper etiquette would have you hand-write a personal note to anyone whose presence at your wedding matters that much, telling them about your plans and the happy changes upcoming in your life.

Post # 10
24 posts

I have the same problem!!!!! i think im going to put it like this

Mrs. Jane Doe And Guest

Mr. John Doe



This aunt has unsteady relationships so as he is only her Boyfriend or Best Friend he gets Guest.  Plus he is not invited with out her.

I don’t want to put and Family because he has 2 children that are not invited (I have only met them once). 



  • This reply was modified 4 years, 1 month ago by  missabby.

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