- 11 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
This was way back, about 5 years ago. I was invited to the wedding of my good friend’s sister who I’d known casually but not really well. About 6 of us were to make the trip but I, being the stupid person I am, didn’t prepare. The night before the wedding I had nothing appropriate to wear and I really didn’t want to go so I just didn’t answer my phone when my friend called to come pick me up. I made some dumb excuse afterward and I’ve regretted this whole incident since. I didn’t even send a gift! I chalk it up to being young, stupid (obviously) and completely thoughtless.
Now, years later, I planned my own wedding and realized just how awful it is to not show up, not RSVP and not even send a gift or note or something. I’ve gotten to know my friend’s sister a lot better and she’s been nothing but sweet and amazing. I invited her to our post-elopement reception and she RSVP’d within days but she can’t make it. She’d like to send a gift, though. I feel so guilty about what I did years ago that I don’t want to be accepting gits or anything from her. Can I say this? Do I bring up my guilt over something that happened years ago? What do I do?