(Closed) How do I ask for a halo?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

Don’t hurt your fiancee’s feelings by telling him you don’t like your ring, you want to change it. It’s a respectable size. Maybe for your 5th anniversary or so, TBH if I were your fiancee {you said he spent a lot of effort finding the ring} I would be gutted if the person I proposed to wanted to upgrade just because.

 

Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Tbh, I’d probably ask for an upgrade later on on a significant date. Maybe your first wedding anniversary or something like that.

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think it is going to hurt his feelings. I kid around with my Fiance saying he can upgrade me to a 1.5 carat whenever he wants (I have a 1 carat moissanite, so the price wouldn’t be an issue for us) and I can tell it hurts him a little bit. He didn’t say this, but I stopped kidding at all because I can tell. I realized I was comparing myself to others and needed to be satisfied with the gift I was given.

These men in our lives have spent a lot of time and money on our jewelry and sometimes see it as an extension of their worth. IMO its best not to press the situation and perhaps wait for a later anniversary together to ask for any type of alteration. 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

ridgebacklover:  which is a bigger payoff: getting the exact ring you want now instead of waiting for a few years or making your fiancé feel like he is amazing and did a great job? 

the thing that makes me lean against you saying something is you wrote that he already spent more than he should have. It also is easily remedied later, not something that you can’t live with today- a halo is a pretty easy addition.

 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Do you mean a .8 or a 80? almost a carat? I dont see whats wrong with adding a halo maybe you can get a wedding wrap as a wedding band and craft that into a halo around your engagement ring. Ive seen people do it and it looks really nice! can you post a photo of your ring? 

ridgebacklover:  

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I was just going to say the same thing as michellebell adding a wedding band to your ring that gives it that halo look is actually a great idea. no ones feelings will be hurt and you will get what you want in the end.. Your the one who has to wear it forever so if you want a halo add it then! its not like you would be exchanging the ring by adding a halo! 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

ridgebacklover:  I second other posters–wrap as a wedding ring is a great idea! And then you will not be changing his engagement ring gift to you. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Guy chiming in here. Definitely don’t ask him. I would be absolutely crushed if my Fiance came to me asking for a different ring or changing it. Maybe later in a few years, but for now I would be so crushed. I would take some of these other suggestions.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: South Lodge. 2nd of Dec 2017

ridgebacklover:  wait silently, the next time he says I wish it was bigger, give it some thought, then come up with this great idea, that you would be happy with as you love your stone, a halo.  There we go it was his idea.  

If it never comes up again, tough luck, be grateful for what you got and more importantly the man who loves you. 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Michellebell85’s idea is great. I’ve seen them called “solitaire enhancers” too.  You can get a wedding band that looks like it adds two side stones too if you don’t want two wedding bands.  That being said.  .8 is not small at all. I used to work in a place where everyone had enormous rocks on their hand and anything under 1.5 carats seemed small, but most people I know now do not even have a full carat, so what looks normal to me is now different. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

https://www.twobirch.com/ring-guards-c-50/style-c-123/halo-c-124/

Just get a wrap/jacket for your wedding band! “Problem” solved. I wouldnt change your engagement ring right off the bat… its what he could afford and hes probably proud of it and would be really hurt if you essentially told him its not good enough. .8 diamond is still quite expensive.

Poke around and get an enhancer as your wedding band.

 

 

 

 

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