(Closed) How do I ask for original receipts on a shower invite?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think that is something that needs to be said outright, “because bride will be crossing customs back into the US, she will need original receipts for any gifts or she may not be able to bring them home.”

Or, you could do something like a recipe shower where everyone brings their favorite recipes for the bride? And maybe suggest any boxed gifts be shipped right from the store to the bride address?

Post # 4
7736 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It looks like you can bring in up to $800 value. http://sweden.usembassy.gov/consulate/acs4.html

So I guess the first question is, do you expect it will be that much anyway? Or can you split the gifts between more than one car on the trip home?

Have you spoken to customs? Surely this sort of thing must happen a fair bit, and hopefully customs takes a common sense approach.

Post # 6
1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hahah wow when I read the title, I thought “simple, you don’t, that’s rude” but then I saw the reasoning and thought, “thank god – this isn’t some crazy bridezilla” LOL.

I think you can put a note in this case on the invite or spread it by word of mouth.  It’s not rude or tacky when it’s due to a reason that could mean her gifts are not able to make it home with her.  I have never been asked for my receipts when crossing, but that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t happen to her, and what a shitty thing that would be.

I would tell people why, and say if you’d prefer ship to her home.

Post # 9
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would not state it in the invite. if it’s a small shower, i would spread the word around (and make sure it gets to everyone)

Post # 10
1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Glynnerd:  haha yeah, that’s what i meant, exactly what you must have found while searching. LOL  I was totally expecting it to be like you wanted to be able to return the gifts without gift receipts, or to know how much they spent haha!! SO GLAD that wasn’t your reasoning.  What ifyou sent an email out if you can’t spread it word of mouth.  If it’s a relatively small shower, I would think you could just tell family and get them to spread the word!

Post # 11
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Glynnerd:  I’d think they would under stand if you stated that due to the border crossing please ensure you provide an origiaanl reciept for customs.

Post # 12
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I really don’t have anything to add other than make sure nobody gives her Kinder Eggs…apparently there’s big business charging people $300 fines for trying to bring them back in the US. o-O

Post # 13
629 posts
Busy bee

My SO and I went to an engagement party for his cousin from Israel, and the evite included a line that said “Due to customs and airline restrictions, we ask that guests do not bring gifts.” You could include a similarly worded line.

Post # 14
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Maybe she could print the registry list (with prices) and present that?

Post # 15
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@lia22:  ahaha I had the same initial reaction! I’ve never thought about a situation where that would be applicable but this certainly is it.


The idea about having the bride register online is wonderful. Maybe put the bride’s address on the shower invitation so that everyone has the shipping address on hand?

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