Post # 1
Fiance is Catholic, I am not. We’re having a traditional Catholic ceremony. I wanted to ask our Father if we can include a message to eathother during the ceremony. You know how some people write their own vows? Of course, they’re not our vows but something to personalize the ceremony. How do I ask this without it sounding like I want my own vows in there ceremony. Does that make sense?
Post # 3
what if you asked if it would be ok if you could include a personalized message to each other before you say your vows? That way its made clear that you do still want to say the vows, but you want also want a chance to say a little something too.
Post # 4
I think you should just say it like that. Ask if there is anywhere during the ceremony where you could say something to one another that is a little more personal. I think that I acutally have seen this done at least once at a Catholic ceremony, right after the vows. Different priests are different! It doesn’t hurt to ask! good luck! 🙂
Post # 5
I think you should your Priest just the way you posted here. Explain that you aren’t suggesting writing your own vows, but that you’d like to say something something to each other during the ceremony. Some priests are open to that kind of thing, other’s aren’t. If he does happen to say no, ask him to help you understand why he doesn’t want you do it. Since you aren’t Catholic, he should be willing to explain his reasoning. (Actually, even if you were Catholic, he should be willing to explain!)
I know you aren’t Catholic, but you should not be afraid to ask your priest anything. He is there to help your and guide you. There probably isn’t a request they haven’t heard before.