How do I avoid drama on this???

posted 1 year ago in Weddingbee
Post # 16
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559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

She’s his mother for Christ sake. She doesn’t deserve to walk down the aisle with her own son at his wedding? But she has to sit there and watch him walk YOUR mom down the aisle?

That’s a tad fucked up. It’s like you are trying to deliberately hurt her feelings. 

Post # 17
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55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

She who pushes him out, is she who walks him down the aisle. -Leviticus 417:41. 

Post # 18
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1037 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I don’t understand why it’s your decision who your Fiance walks down the aisle with. Wouldn’t that be HIS decision?

Post # 19
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559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

So, I looked at your past posts and found this one where you post about your drama with her. https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fmil-drama-advice-more-the-merrier-am-i-the-crazy-one/

I get it, she’s caused some issues. But then I read towards the end where you said your husband wants to forgive and repair the relationship, but you don’t. So, yeah, I see this as your petty way of “winning” vs. her. 

That’s the perfect way to start a marriage.

Post # 22
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351 posts
Helper bee

How would you feel if he asked for his dad to walk you down the aisle? 

Post # 24
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2184 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

springtimewedding1987 :  well here’s the thing… sometimes your wants need to be put aside for others. If you KNOW it’s going to cause drama why go there? You have intentionally avoided others asking you about siblings/cousins/ushers to walk your mom down the aisle. She doesn’t have “no one” to walk her down you’re choosing to focus on your FH as that person instead of probably a dozen others. You’re stuck in a fantasy land that does not match up with your reality. 

Post # 26
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4663 posts
Honey bee

I think what has been missed so far is that parents aren’t even part of the processional.  They are traditionally the last seated, but they are not an actual part of the processional.  They are typically escorted to their seat by an usher (like everyone else) a groomsman or their own spouse (and then your dad could circle back around to walk you down the aisle).  Your fiance should already be up front waiting.  Don’t borrow trouble and create drama that doesn’t need to exist when you have numerous other options unless you plan to extend the same courtesy to both mothers (particularly to the groom’s own mother).

Post # 27
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2845 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

springtimewedding1987 :  If you don’t think the idea will be offensive to his mom since she can walk with her husband, what drama are you worried about? I haven’t read your previous posts so maybe I’m out of the loop!

Post # 29
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2746 posts
Sugar bee

It sucks that she’s been giving you grief over other things as well, I just don’t think this is a hill worth dying on. I would ask her about it, but if she wants to walk her own son down the aisle it’s understandable and I’d let her. Then your mom and FH’s dad can walk down together, that’s what we did at ours. 

 

Post # 30
Hostess
2002 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

springtimewedding1987 :  this comment right here has me convinced that you want this specifically to spite her. 

I’ve never seen this done before and I don’t think it’s worth the drama you’re going to incite over it. 

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