How do I avoid drama on this???

posted 1 year ago in Weddingbee
Post # 31
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

If mom is so important why don’t you let her walk down with you and your dad?

Post # 32
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Sugar bee

As PP said, you are inviting problems over a thing that is not a thing. Grow up.

Post # 33
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Busy bee

I’d let her walk with her son. Just walk with both your mom and dad.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee

Sorry, I agree with everyone else. I’d be pretty hurt in MIL’s position. Unless Mother-In-Law was dead, I’d think it was pretty strange to have the groom walk with your mother. 

I have Mother-In-Law drama too, so I get it. Sometimes we don’t realize that we’re going out of our way to be spiteful or digging our heels in on something that doesn’t really matter so that they don’t “win”. 

Post # 35
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Busy bee

slomotion :  every wedding I’ve ever been to had bride and groom walking down with both parents. That’s what we’re doing because it’s what we’ve seen and my dad hates the idea of “giving me away” so we’re looking at it as him and my mom being by my side as I take the next big step in life. Same for FH and his parents. 

Post # 36
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Sugar bee

I agree with PPs that you need to let you Fiance decide and if he wants to walk with his mom, then you can walk with your mom and dad.  

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I’d say fair’s fair.  If you’re going to insist on your mother escorting the groom, then his father gets to walk you down the aisle.  I guess that means your father can walk with his mother.

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

xiexie :  🤣🤣 perfect. And OP you can include a family tree on everyone’s program so they can follow along!

Post # 39
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Busy bee

If the question is truly “How do I avoid drama on this?” the answer is you let go of whatever dream you had of your FH walking your mom down the aisle. I know you think your fmil is crazy and will cause drama over this, but really most mothers would feel hurt by another mom walking their son down the aisle on his wedding day. If she were upset about it that would not be an example of her being crazy or dramatic.

I’m really not sure why this is so important to you. To be honest it sounds odd. 

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2018

walking both moms down the aisle is not a bad idea. so your groom can walk them both, your dad walk with you and his dad walk with his sister or some other close relative he has.

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