- 6 years ago
Alright, so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost two and a half years now, and that’s not including the year and a half we dated in high school. We have lived together almost two years now, and are committed to each other.
So, reasonably, the matter of engagement comes up now and again. Now, I decided a while back that I don’t want a real diamond. For me, they’re too unethical and I wouldn’t want Fiance to spend so much money on something like that. So we both started looking into lab diamonds and diamond simulants.
For a while, I was interested in the Diamond Nexus gems, only to find out there’s a lot wrong with that company. So after having done my share of research, I’ve narrowed my preferences down to three companies of varying quality.
My first choice is Asha. They look like diamonds but not at the ridiculous price of natural diamonds. I understand that they are essentially glorified CZ, but as long as they are durable and stay beautiful, that’s more than enough to make me happy. Also, I found my dream setting on their site.
Second choice is moissanite. They seem to sparkle a lot more than diamonds, but they still look very classy. Also, the same setting I like is on that site as well. However, they’re a bit more expensive than the Asha.
My third choice, and I’m very interested to see who might have or have seen anything from this site, is Carat* London. They seem to just be very nice CZ, so I’m skeptical about their durability, but they are definitely affordable. However, my favorite setting isn’t found on here, or anything similar.
Now, here’s my dilemma. I want a big stone. Like, 1.5 to 2 ct. Not because I want it to look like I have an expensive ring, but mostly for asthetic purposes. I have thicker fingers than most women (size 9 or larger, usually), and I feel that a larger stone will look better on my fingers than a daintier one. My boyfriend, on the other hand, thinks large diamonds look bad. I’m worried that he only says this because he doesn’t think he can afford one. But he could, if he would by a simulant such as an Asha.
However, he thinks he has to buy a lab diamond or nothing at all. My stepmother loves diamonds, and she has quite a few very nice once from my dad, some larger, some smaller. I think Fiance is worried that my dad and my stepmom will disapprove if he buys me something that is not chemically a diamond. But as long as it looks beautiful and lasts, I don’t care if it’s Asha, Mossy, or lab. And Asha clearly seems to be the most affordable choice.
How do I convince him that getting a “real” diamond doesn’t matter and that I would rather have a larger fake stone than a smaller “real” one. After all, I’m the one wearing it, right? The kicker is, it’s very hard to bring up the topic of rings or engagement, because he feels pressured.
Any advice? Does anyone have relatives who love diamonds? What are their opinions on Asha or other simulants? And does anyone know about Carat*? Any advice at all is very helpful. Thanks!