Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my big sister, so far she hasn’t been to a wedding fayre with me hasn’t come to any dress shops, or helped plan anything. I am paying for her outfit for the day aswell as everything else, (no parents to help as my mum wont and my dad died) I am on a budget and the dresses are costing me £50 each (about $75-$80) they also have shoes that cost £20 and tiaras that were £15. everytime I have shown her what I am buying I have had the same response, “Will I be having a more expensive one because I am MOH” It’s not that she doesn’t like the dress/ shoes/ tiara/ jewellry she does she just wants hers to be different and to cost more I think this is really unfair whats your opinion?
Post # 3
It is unfair to expect it. I know some people do dress their Maid/Matron of Honor slightly differently as a way to make her stand out, so maybe that is where she is getting this idea? Just tell her politely but firmly that the expensiveness/fanciness is not how you want to highlight her, rather the fact that she will be standing the closest to you is how and doesn’t that trump the rest? If she pushes it, tell her she is welcome to help with the cost to upgrade and that should settle it.
Post # 4
There is a simple answer “no”. If you are paying for everything you have 100% say in the matter.
Post # 5
@bearlove: She is walking me down the isle I thought that would make her stand out enough, and I made her son a page boy and paid for his suit
Post # 6
That is incredibly rude and shallow of her. “Will it be more expensive?” Seriously? I agree with bearlove – next time it comes up, tell her she is welcome to pay the difference.