(Closed) how do I deal with paying for kids I don’t even know at my no kid wedding?!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Since he did the inviting, he should do the paying for the extras.  Or maybe his family can help pay for his extra peeps? 

Is it an option for your *unwelcome* guests to rotate between other family members after your wedding is over?  Maybe stay at his parents house, an aunts house, etc.?

Post # 4
489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I guess that’s a lesson for your husband- you can’t invite people and expect them to decline!

Sorry, it does seem like they are taking advantage of you in order to have a week in Hawaii.  There’s really no reason your husband had to offer for them to stay for an extra week!  But I don’t know what you do about it now.

Post # 5
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

How about getting a babysitter for the kids and then they can stay at your house? You could get them pizza and rent some movies. Just because they’re in the city, doesn’t mean they have to come to your wedding.

As for what to do with everyone for an entire week after your wedding, I have no idea. I can’t imagine doing that to anyone and I have no idea how the aunt could think that this was remotely ok. Could they stay somewhere else? What about your parents’ place?

Post # 6
1580 posts
Bumble bee

I totally get why are not happy that they are staying with you for over a week. That would bother me too, but since your husband already offered, there isn’t much you can do. I like posh’s idea about rotating them to another house if possible.

Regarding the 2 cousins- I think you just need to let that go. It can’t be so expensive that it is worth getting worked up about. If you feel bad about having your parents pay for them, you and your husband should pay for them and let it be.

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