- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
My husband’s aunt is flying all the way across the country to come to our wedding. She’s also bringing her two kids with her. I think they are between the ages of 8-13. I’ve never met this woman or her kids. My husband hasn’t seen her or the kids in like 10 years.
My husband told me that she’s very strapped for cash (she’s a single mom) and that it’s really awesome of her to come all the way out here for our wedding, because it’s not something she can really afford. She already bought the plane tickets for her and her two kids.
First reason I’m a bit irked: They are staying at our house. They can’t afford a hotel so my husband offered up our house…and they took it. They are coming a few days before the wedding, and staying for like 8 days even after the wedding. At. Our. House. My husband deploys to Afghanistan less than a month after our wedding. I’m a full time student too, so I’m in class for part of the week days. So every minute I’m home, I want to spend with him before he leaves. Just the two of us. But now we have her and her two kids at our house for a week after the wedding. I’m so upset. I just want to spend time with him before he deploys, and also…it’s kind of umm..our wedding night..LOL. We’re already married so it’s not like it’s a big deal but still, I would think it’s kind of rude to do that. So now my husband and I might have to just get a hotel which is stupid we have to spend money on that when we have a house. (We already live in Hawaii…so we don’t even need a honeymoon, plus I don’t have time since I’m a full time student) It’s just inconvenient.
Second reason I’m irked: My parents aren’t made of money, and are really trying hard to afford us a wedding, my grandma is helping them with it too. So my mom stresses to me that everybody on the guest list needs to be someone I REALLY want there. Because it’s going to be a lot more per head than she planned to spend. So there aren’t going to be young kids at our wedding. I’m young, so I have 18/19 year old friends. But my husband being in the military is inviting some of his higher ups and buddies with kids. All of which we wouldn’t even have to tell them that they should get a baby sitter. They wouldn’t show up with their small children. So his aunt’s two kids I don’t even know…and he hasn’t even seen them in like 10 years. So I’m kind of annoyed that they are taking up two spots in my limited guest list. And that my parents who are trying so hard to give me a wedding have to pay a bunch of money for these children to eat.
Ugh. I’m not trying to sound like a Beeotch, because I’m not at all. I’m generally very laid back and such a nice person. I’m just having a hard time dealing with the fact that they are staying at my house so close to my husband deploying when I just want to be with him 🙁 And because every dollar in this wedding straps my rents even more. I can’t really gripe to my husband because he just tells me he’s sorry but they can’t afford a hotel and he didn’t think she’d bring the kids or take him up on the offer to stay at the house.
I might just be emotional thinking about my husband going to Afghanistan again…but would this irk anyone else?!