- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
I’m going to make a long story as shot as possible. This girl is a good friend of mine, very sweet and has been very helpful in wedding planning. She’s 1 of 3 bridesmaids. My issue has to do with the dress and her attitude about it.
In the beginning I told her that she could choose her own dress as long as it flowed with my wedding. No problem. She decided she didn’t want to buy a dress until mid-July because she was losing weight (she lost alot and I’m proud of her). Despite the September wedding date, I agreed to this. Well, she got her heart set on a $200 designer dress only to learn that it wouldn’t come in time. She freaked out. Literally. For weeks she was borderline panicking because she couldn’t have that dress. It was ridiculous, and after all of her freaking out, I finally had to tell her that she would just have to pick another dress.
We went to the shopping appointment in July and she had decided on her own that she was going to get this specific dress and the rest of the bridal party was going to as well. I told her that they could pick their own, but she pretty much ignored me. Anyway, the dress she loved didn’t look good. I hate to say it, because she thought she looked gorgeous, but it really didn’t. I said no, but she wouldn’t hear it! We left the shop and for days wouldn’t talk about anything other than that dress and I needed to let her know when she could order it so it would come in on time. I ended up having to be very blunt with her.
She then chose a new dress for her and the bridal party (and wouldn’t listen when I said it was up to them, just kept insisting they should match). This dress was almost exactly the same as the last, only difference being a little bit of beading at the top. I said no again and decided to just pick the dress because she was frustrating me. The other bridesmaids thought this a good idea.
She says she likes the dress I chose, but since she can only order it online I need to pick a different one because she won’t order it. She has to go shopping, try it on and pay for it at the store. Fine, whatever, except the next day she went on vacation and won’t be back until mid-August. I told her I can’t go shopping then because I have other commitments (like all the rest of the planning!), and she would need to go shopping herself. She said no, I had to go with her or she wasn’t buying it.
She then proceeded to tell me that she can only spend $50 on the dress (which is fine with me), and can’t afford alterations. Ok…
I’m so frustrated at this point I don’t know what to say. None of the other bridesmaids are having these issues! There have been other issues with her as well, but that’s way too much to type of here, but because of those things and the dress everybody else thinks I should ask her to step down. She’s such a sweet girl and awesome friend though that I don’t want to do that.
How to I deal with this girl before I pull all of my hair out???