Post # 1
I’m kind of new here, but I figured your collective wisdom could help me out. I am way too worried about The Wedding Dress. I thought I knew what I wanted (poofy satin ballgown with sparkles everywhere), but now I am not so sure that it’s really “me.” I keep thinking about doing so many other styles and silhouettes and I can’t decide what would look best or make me feel best in it. I have been driving myself crazy because I can’t figure out what I want or how I want to look.
Not to sound overly dramatic, but I need advice before this turns into some kind of identity crisis. The wedding is June 2013 in the afternoon and indoors. I’m a tall, slim-but-busty lady.
Post # 3
Not sure if you have already done this but I went and tried on every silhouette out there to see which one I liked the best on me. I thought I wanted tons of sparkle and I tried on a lot with sparkles and they were gorgeous but in the end my dress is a different kind of dramatic because the whole thing looked good instead of one part of it.
Post # 4
Welcome to weddingbee! Best advice i can give you is to go try on as many different styles and fabrics as you can alone and then maybe go back again with a friend you trust. From there maybe you can narrow it down and if you don’t find a dress on one of those trips you at least have some knowledge to do some online research.
Post # 5
Take one or two people who you know will be 100% honest with you about how you look, and just head to a bridal shop and try on different ones. You’ll know right away which ones work for you and which ones don’t. Even try styles that you think may not be you, this will allow you to see what types of skirts and bodices you like!
Good luck and have fun!
Post # 6
First of all, don’t stress 🙂 Everything will be fine! I believe the best thing you can do is make a few appointments at some local bridal boutiques to try on dresses. The sales rep should be able to help you select various styles and silhouettes that not only show off your best features, but make you feel beautiful at the same time. Be sure you have a budget in mind, so that you don’t fall in love with a dress you can’t afford. It’s easy to imagine yourself in a certain style of dress, but you need to try it on and see how it fits your body type. Once you’ve started trying on dresses, you’ll get a general idea of what you do and don’t like. Best of luck to you!
Post # 7
i agree with all the other posters, try on as much as you can even if you don’t like the dress, just to see what looks good on you. then search out one you love in that style. most people will tell you they didn’t end up with what they thought they wanted
Post # 8
You won’t know what you want until you go try it on and see what fits you. I thought I wanted poofy ballgown, but I went on and it did NOT look good on me. The only thing that flattered me was a dropped waist A-line cut. So, now I’m on the hunt for the perfect dropped waist a-line.
Post # 9
Thank you for all the responses! I have actualy gone out and tried on a lot of dresses in many styles. I’ve figured out that the dropped waist A-line also works well for me and that natural waists don’t.
I think I’m still overwhelmed with the seemingly thousands of options I feel I have. I’m also torn between getting my dress custom made by someone that was referred to me or buying a dress from a bridal salon. I am familiar with the dressmaker’s work (I have comissioned her before for non wedding things) but I’m worried about the quality of the dress in the end. Previous non-wedding things were good, but meant for a one-night masquerade thing.
I wanted to get a dress custom made so I could do an 18th century-esque dress (I’m a historical dress fanatic), but I wonder if it would be more practical to do a “buy out of a boutique” dress.
Post # 10
@glimmeringchild: then that might be the issue – that you have a vision in your mind that is never going to be met by a bridal salon because it has to be custom made. why dont you meet with the seamstress you’ve used before and have in mind and have her talk to you about what kind of design she can make, what material and fabrics she would use and how she would ensure that the quality is good? maybe meeting with her in person will help you feel more comfortable about it.
Post # 11
Try on lots of different styles! Have the consultant pull dresses for you based on her expertise rather than going in with specific dresses you want to try on. The dress I ended up with was one I had seen online and hated and never would have tried it on if it weren’t for my listening to the consultant!