(Closed) How do I explain to my mother…

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2659 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

So…who is ending up on the guest list? It makes me sad for you that one of the reasons you have to go without some of the people you love at your wedding is because you’re afraid your Future Father-In-Law will cause a fight. That’s a really tough situation. Does your mom already know that your Future Father-In-Law is that way? All I can think is that you need be prepared for some understandably strong emotions from her. Good luck.

Post # 4
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414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think there is a good way. I think all she will here is you are choosing them over your family and that you are ashamed of them. Thats kind of what it sound like to me…a complete stranger.

 

Post # 5
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1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m sorry you’re in this situation, but it sounds like you’ve made your decision not to include your mother’s family. Just tell it straight to your mother, the way you said it here, because there’s no other way to do it.

 

But be prepared for the backlash. I don’t think your mother or her family will really feel “loved” by being excluded. 

Post # 6
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533 posts
Busy bee

Are you inviting any other aunties, uncles or cousins? You either invite all or none. 

Post # 8
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414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@11mikesgirl21:  I’m sorry I was critical. I though you were super close with your mom’s family. It sucks that you are dealing with all this. Good luck!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well, if you are that distant from them, hopefully she will understand why they would not be invited.  On another note, why can you ‘not’ invite the hairdresser?

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