Post # 16
My sister isnt comin to mine eihter. I didn’t invite her to my small ceremony which will only be my parents, best friend, his brother, and best friend. She wants everything to be about her so she doesn’t even want to come to the reception which she WAS invited to. If people ask my response is that my wedding and marriage is about me and my FH. NOT my sister or anyone else.
Post # 17
Yes another for the ‘he couldn’t make it ‘ vote. Not ‘that’s private/personal’ or ‘ I don’t want to talk about it ‘, that is guaranteed to cause speculation. Just ‘he couldn’t make it’ followed by ‘our schedules didn’t work together’ or something for rude persisters
Post # 18
If you want to keep it light maybe something like ‘oh it’s too long a story but he couldn’t make it’ ‘the date didn’t work but weddings aren’t really his thing anyway’ and change the subject. If anyone pushes you can shut them down, pretend to be distracted by someone else (not hard, everyone was constantly trying to talk to me!), or even make up something vague about a work trip if you want to.
Post # 19
missneesy : if it comes up..then address it just how you did to us. Don’t go into it..it isn’t anyone’s business. Unfortunately he’s unable to make it. And that’s it.
Post # 20
This thread’s a little old, but I agree with PP to keep it light with “He couldn’t make it,” or “Our schedules didn’t match up.” I think if you said something along the lines of “It’s private,” you’re opening yourself up to drama and speculation, which I’m assuming is something you certainly don’t want.
Post # 21
Hi all, thanks again for your responses. We met with our officiant the other day and I had to tell her my brother wasn’t coming (he was supposed to walk my mom down the aisle). I could tell she wanted me to elaborate and she asked if she could “fix it.” She said, “Oh he must have done something horrible for him not to come.” It’s so far past fixing. I told her no you can’t fix it and he’s not coming. It was kind of awkward. Why are people so damn nosey?!