How do I explain to people that my brother is not coming to my wedding?

posted 7 months ago in Family
Post # 16
586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

My sister isnt comin to mine eihter. I didn’t invite her to my small ceremony which will only be my parents, best friend, his brother, and best friend. She wants everything to be about her so she doesn’t even want to come to the reception which she WAS invited to. If people ask my response is that my wedding and marriage is about me and my FH. NOT my sister or anyone else.

Post # 17
5152 posts
Bee Keeper

Yes another for the ‘he couldn’t make it ‘ vote. Not ‘that’s  private/personal’  or  ‘ I don’t want to talk  about it ‘, that is guaranteed to cause speculation. Just ‘he couldn’t  make it’ followed by  ‘our schedules didn’t work together’ or something  for rude persisters  

Post # 18
2810 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

If you want to keep it light maybe something like ‘oh it’s too long a story but he couldn’t make it’ ‘the date didn’t work but weddings aren’t really his thing anyway’ and change the subject. If anyone pushes you can shut them down, pretend to be distracted by someone else (not hard, everyone was constantly trying to talk to me!), or even make up something vague about a work trip if you want to. 

Post # 19
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

missneesy :  if it comes up..then address it just how you did to us. Don’t go into isn’t anyone’s business. Unfortunately he’s unable to make it. And that’s it.

Post # 20
448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

This thread’s a little old, but I agree with PP to keep it light with “He couldn’t make it,” or “Our schedules didn’t match up.” I think if you said something along the lines of “It’s private,” you’re opening yourself up to drama and speculation, which I’m assuming is something you certainly don’t want. 

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