(Closed) How do I forgive FI for not giving me a proper proposal?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 92
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Some men don’t do well under pressure. My fiance straight up told me not to expect a big proposal, not because he doesn’t love me but because he felt uncomfortable and “not himself” doing it that way.

Big picture, the proposal is not relaly a big deal. THe important part is thast you get forever Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Post # 93
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2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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Janelle123:  hmm i understand. i felt this way when we were dating. we got engaged at 6.5 years. i felt like i was going nuts and my attitude and our relationship suffered no matter how much i told mywelf to be patient. if you havent set a date yet… i suggest giving the ring back and telling him you will wait for a proposal. might be even longer than you thought but i think, if i were you, this would be the best way to shake those feelings and make a new moment when hes ready. beacuse it sounds like he never proposed. you did… and it also wasnt as romantic as you would like. tell him you are sorry you were so frusterated and that what you really want is the over the moon, out of the park feeling. just throwing a ring at you, that you seemed to have picked out anyways, isnt that over the moon. its okay… just breathe

Post # 94
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

How do you forgive him? By realizing that not getting a “proper proposal” is an incredibly tiny non-issue in the life of a relationship, focusing on the fact that you will one day have real problems to overcome and need to be strong/loving/cohesive to do so, and growing up.

 

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but you’re devoting a lot of emotional energy to something that in the long run really, really isn’t worth it. If you love him, marry him. If not, cut him loose. Theatricality not included.

Post # 95
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Helper bee

If at the end of it you two became engaged, then it was a `proper proposal’.  

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