Post # 1
My cousins are starting to inquire about gifts and registries. I am moving to England by the end of the year to start my new life with my future husband. I told my cousin I didn’t want to sound presumptuous but to spread the word I didnt want any bulky gifts because I’m moving. Now she’s asking about a bridal registry, I said there was none. Hmm, I don’t want to say I’d rather have cash sounds tacky; how do you get the message across without coming out as tacky and aggressive; I figured no bulky gifts means no cash, but when someone knows you have no registry isnt it understood you don’t want boxed gifts? help! I don’t have time to transport it from the wedding to the honeymoon suite to my apartment and I don’t want to ship it to England, help!!I;d want to have gifts from my immediate family (mom, dad, sister, brothers) but everyone else it doesn’t mean as much
Post # 3
Could you have the ship-to address be your post-wedding address and/or register at British stores (do they do that?)?
Post # 4
I think you should just spread the word that since you are moving, you won’t be able to transport gifts. I don’t think you should specifically mention that you want cash. I think people should get the drift. Also, if you have a wedding website, you can put something in the registry section something like: "Because we will be moving to England very soon, we will be unable to take any gifts with us. The greatest gift to us will be your presence at our wedding." Or something like that 😉 My guess is that people will still give you cash 😉
Post # 5
Both good ideas. I’ll just chime in and vote. I think that it’d be OK to spread via word of mouth, but not on the invitations.
Post # 6
yeah I didn’t put it on my invite, my friends said you can use "no boxed gifts’ to indicate you dont want big gifts, my bro said thats too presumptuous it means youre expecting something, my friends know I dont have the energy to ship gifts to England now its just communicating to my family friends and cousins without sounding tacky
Post # 7
I posted something about this before because I’m having the SAME issue! We don’t need gifts since we’ve been living together for years so we have a house full of junk already. Plus our wedding is out-of-state so lugging boxes on the plane really won’t work well. However, we would LOVE cash (checks, gift cards, etc.) to help pay off wedding expenses but, outside of word of mouth or a wedding website, there doesn’t seem to be a "classy" way of getting this point across.
My mother suggested adding "No Gifts Please" onto our wedding invites. Would this also be considered presumptuous?
Post # 8
okay I just spread it among my family, my cousins and friends by word of mouth that I’m moving and gee, bulky gifts would sure be hard to bring, problem solved, think they got the hint
Post # 9
We are joining the Peace Corps a few months after our wedding (hopefully) and said so on our wedding website. Here’s the exact text, if it helps:
"As you may know, we have applied to join the Peace Corps in 2010…We plan to sell or donate most of our worldly possessions to avoid the need for storage. Therefore, we are not registering for gifts.
Your presence is truly to best gift you could give us. If you do feel compelled to bring us a gift – which, again, is not necessary – a donation to help us while we are overseas and when we return home would be most appreciated."
I think it’s hard to ask for or hint at the desire for cash if you aren’t moving, so I think we’re lucky to have the excuse!