(Closed) How do I get married in a church?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

While I have a church I attend regularly, I got married away from where I live.

I found a church that I liked near my venue and asked them about getting married. There was a charge for non members.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

look at local churches attend a sunday service at each one you think would be where you would like to get married. talk with the pastor after a few services, figure out what needs to be done– pre martial counseling, date and time of when u would like to get married, make sure there isnt a scheduled event already follow rules of the church– one place we looked at for getting married wouldnt let us hand pew decorations or have real rose petals or any food or drinks in the lobby(fellowship hall)

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I think the first thing is to find a church which is right for you. Because arranging weddings varies so much by denomination, it will depend on which church you begin to attend regularly. Most churches require six months’ notice for a wedding, so you still have plenty of time!

You also don’t say which country you are from, so it’s hard to advise you re costs.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Talk to the pastor at the church you attend. Some churches have different rules. At our church you have to be a member to have your wedding there. Just start talking to people.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@alohapanda:  Is there a reason you want to get married in a church?  I ask, because it seems like church/religion doesn’t play much of a role in your life.  There are TONS of other options for places to get married… so if there is a place that would be more significant and meaningful to you, you might want to check out other options!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@alohapanda:  We don’t attend church on a regular basis but the church that my SIL belongs to has a really awesome pastor. It’s a beautiful church also. We contact the pastor and asked her to marry us. There was a fee of $690 plus we had to attend pre marital counseling. It was all worth it. GL

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@alohapanda:  Im so happy you asked these questions becuase I have been wondering the same, although my reasoning is diffrent then yours.

I want to get married in a church because to me its a peaceful place and the catholic churchs we have looked at are so amazing and beautiful and Ive always seen myself getting married in one.  Im just having a little bit of an issues becuz they need letters from his Church back home (in NJ and we live in AZ, moving to NV) and we would have to attend a weekend class for couples.  The last church we checked with wants $500 for the church and another fee for the priest.  My Fiance thinks $500 is to much so we are still looking. 

If you find a church you like even if you just walk in and think its the place.  You can talk with the priest/pastor, etc and let them know yours ideas and theyll usually let you know exactly what needs to be done and the amt it will cost to use the church.  Good Luck to you guys, hope you find the prefect place 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Find out which churches you like. Keep in mind some churches will not marry you unless you attend church and are members there. That is what happened to us. We picked a church that knew our pastor that we wanted. It ended up costing us a couple hundred dollars (somewhere between 300-500 I want to say) to get married there. it included the pastor and organist fees as well as general cleanup. We got $100 of that back if there wasn’t any major cleaning.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It’s worth talking to people and seeing what they think – some places will accept a family connection as reason enough. I’m having a semi-destination wedding (long story) and am getting married in my Grandmother’s church. The minister was more than happy to wed us due to the family connection, and waived certain things (like being expected to attend the service on sundays for the 3 weeks preceeding the marriage. There was also no fee, either for the church or the minister, though we have been asked and will be giving a donation. The reasoning behind this was that she believed no couple should be put off getting married due to cost. I know this will differ area to area though, Scotland is pretty laid back when it comes to marriage (you can get married pretty much anywhere at anytime).

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@alohapanda:  This year you and your fiance should join a church that makes you comfortable and you are interested in. Get to know the pastor and the mission of the church and the rest will work out for the best. I have been going to my church for 20yrs and since my fiance and i met 5 years ago, he bagan going with me. He is now also a member.

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