(Closed) How do I get my BM to make my guest book?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Well….

What if you offered to pay her for it? If you bought a guestbook, it would cost money anyways, and this way you can have exactly what you want.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think offering to pay for it is one way, but probably at the end of the process of talking to her.

I would first tell her just how wonderful you thought it was, and how you would like to know how she made it. Then ask her if she could help you make it. If she offers to make it at that point, offer to pay her, and is she refuses, insist on buying her the materials.

Beyond that, unless she does some crafting for income on the side, I don’t think there is much more that you can do.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think she’d be completely flattered! Depending on how close you are, she might not even expect or think about asking you to pay for it.. If you offered though, I think it would be better, even if she declined payment.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Oh, and the sign is a great idea. She will feel like a true ar-teest ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah, I guess some people are taskmasters, so I might be the wrong person to ask. I feel terrible about telling them what dress to buy, much less showers and bachelorettes and all that.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Just ask! You’re not being a task master if you are politely asking someone to share their talents with you. Knowing who has what talents and how to utilize them is the sign of a smart bride (or even project manager)! Two of my BMs are crocheting part of the favors for the shower. Technically, my mom asked them to do it, but I told her who had the skillz to do the job.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Just ask! She’s your Bridesmaid or Best Man afterall. You two must be close or she wouldn’t be in the wedding. I know when I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man (before bing engaged) I had no idea what the bride needed help with. I kept telling her to tell me what to do and asking how I could help and she didn’t say much. When she finally gave me a task, I felt like I was finally serving my purpose (to stand by her side at the wedding AND help with what I could). I think she’d be excited to help you and honored that you were asking for help with such a personal part of your wedding.

 

Good Luck!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with monitajb….tell her how much you loved the scrapbook that she made and offer to pay her to make one for you. You would have to purchase one anyway. I know as a Bridesmaid or Best Man there were DIY things that I wanted to do for the bride, but due to finances I wasn’t able to unless the bride purchased the materials. When you are a Bridesmaid or Best Man, those expenses add up and I think it would put your Bridesmaid or Best Man in an awkward position if you asked her without offering to pay. I think it would be a nice gesture to give your Bridesmaid or Best Man the credit even if you pay for the materials b/c it will still be her time and artistic ability that brings it all together.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Put yourself in her shoes. If you were in her wedding and you had made something for her that she thought was absolutely fantastic and she wanted you to make another one for her to use as a part of her wedding, how would you react? Personally, I would be incredibly flattered and honored to make something like that. Especially if there were a sign next to it that said “Yo, redherring made this and you could only hope to rock as much as she does.” Smile

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Just ask her, she’ll be flattered I’m sure!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Dude, just ask her. Offer to pay but if she’s a super good friend like you said she’ll probably just say, “STFU, You’re not giving me any money” and that’ll be the end of that. Good luck! ๐Ÿ™‚

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