Post # 1
I want my fiance to be more interested in wedding plans. We’ve still got over a year before our wedding, but he doesn’t seem to realize that with so much other stuff going on in our lives incl. working, the time is going to pass really quickly. We don’t get a lot of time to talk about wedding plans, so when we do find the time, it seems to me that we should make the most of it. But even then, he doesn’t seem to be all that interested. He keeps saying that the only thing that’s important for him is that I marry him, and that everything else is not as important. While I agree, and think it’s very sweet of him, I don’t want to feel like I’m planning the whole thing on my own. He also always says that planning the perfect wedding is a female thing, and that men generally aren’t that bothered. And he refers to it as my big day sometimes – not ours, or his. How do I get him to feel as excited about wedding planning as I do?
Post # 3
@NolloUK: Well, the bad news is you might not be able to and that is probably okay:) A date that is over a year away to a guy may as well be a million years into the future. They don’t plan in advance like we do. Plus, guys just really don’t care about all this stuff (with a few rare exceptions). That’s what your family and friends are for. Have a good time planning and get them to help and try to not feel hurt. It sounds as if he’s excited to get married and start his life with you. Which is good news:)
Post # 4
Exactly what 2ndtimeacharm said. As long as he’s happy to be getting married thats all that is important. A lot of guys are just not that into wedding details, and thats ok. Look at it this way, you have all the planning power! Besides, once the wedding gets closer and feels more real, im sure he will get into it a little more.
Post # 5
Let it go. The reality is we can’t change each other. The important thing is he is interested in marrying you. I am sure he has interests that you do not share.
Keep him informed so he can’t say he wasn’t aware of your decisions.
Just get a commitment from that if there are DIY’s where you need help, he will pitch in to the best of his abilty.
Post # 6
This sounds like a perfectly natural, normal groom response. Probably as you continue, you’ll find that he’s really interested in specific things: the DJ, the food, the transportation, whatever. Just keep talking about it and eventually, as planning progresses, he’ll likely get more involved for a bit of it.
Post # 7
It’s true that some guys just aren’t that interested. I would say when you have a decision to make, narrow it down to 2 or 3 and then let him help pick. Or get him involved in more of the guy type stuff like food and music. That’s what I’ve done so far and it’s gone well.
Post # 8
yea, don’t fret. my FH is the same way…i’ve joked before that as long as he “shows up” at the wedding it’s okay. And men don’t care about wedding details because, well, think about it, how many boys have ever planned a frilly, flowery, sugary party? 😛
actually my FH’s best friend is also engaged. his fiancee is really particular about every little detail, and wants to do everything by hand. it’s really sweet..but she makes him help too. the poor bloke is spending hours cutting paper for their hand made invitations! i tell my FH to consider himself lucky, and he nods profusely hahahaha.