Post # 1
I….think I just need some reassurance. My mother isn’t particularly helping at the moment.
So, I have my lovely dress. Fell in love with it online, it didn’t fit, found a seamstress to alter, picked it up and this is the first try on while 100% complete. And I just feel……like a sausage. I hate how my chest looks in it and feel….so big. Granted, it hasn’t been pressed, I wasn’t wearing the right undergarments, had no makeup on, didn’t do my hair, etc but still……I don’t know.
I’ve struggled with my weight my whole life…..even though I was very underweight until about two years ago when I started birth control and gained. I ALWAYS thought I was fat (even when 5’9″ and 120lbs). I realize now (at my heaviest) that I’m really *not* that big, but I just FEEL so big. It doesn’t help that my chest is massive (36F) and makes me self concious. And then you have my mother consistently slyly mentioning that ‘perhaps we should have tried on more dresses before we chose this one’. Thanks mom. Please don’t say that four weeks out!!
So I guess I’m just searching for some reassurance/tips/etc…..
Sorry for the massive photos!
Post # 3
@randomequine: I’d say if you have 4 weeks, you could modify your diet a bit, maybe add in a bit of exercise to de-stress an you’ll probably lose 5 lbs and that teeny bit could make your dress fit just that much better. Smile in your pics and hold your shoulders up and you’ll feel better!
Post # 4
I think you look great! With the right undergarments, hair and make-up done you’ll look absolutely fab. You don’t look like a sausage or a lump at all x x
Post # 5
You look STUNNING! I’m wondering…is there any room to add a little crinoline underneath your dress for a little poof? My thoughts are that while you look beautiful, maybe seeing a little waist definition would help you out a bit.
Post # 6
I looks good hun!!!
just add a hoop (crinoline and it will set out more giving the a line shape and make you feel amazing.
Post # 7
@SoontobeSLM: Don’t tell her to lose weight so she’ll feel better! That is body-shaming talk, and there is nothing shameful about her body. Besides, someone who worries about looking/feeling overweight is not going to lose a cosmetically significant amount of weight in 4 weeks in any healthy sort of way. And, someone who says she has “always felt fat” at several different weights is not going to be helped psychologically by losing weight, but by realizing, through the support of others, that she is not only not fat, but would be a beautiful and valuable human being even if she was.
Randomequine, you look great in your dress! Please try and feel amazing about it, and about the fact that you are about to get married! If you worry that your breasts look large or don’t fit right in the dress, you can definitely go find a good bra that will minimize, separate, and support them so that you feel comfortable in your wedding dress.
Post # 8
I think you look great and really think that dress suits you heaps. I’ve got the exact opposite problem that my bust is too small. I’m a size 16 with only barely B cup boobs and every dress I tried needed to be taken in around the bust and taken out around the belly. Eventually, I just had to accept my body as it is and really you are going to look fabulous on your wedding day NO MATTER WHAT. Buying some fabulous shoes will also make you feel better 🙂 another thing I did was printed a photo of me in my dress and kept it by my computer along with a few ‘model’ pics in similar dresses which helped me realise that I didn’t look horrible next to them. We are often our worst critics and only see our worst when we look in the mirror
Post # 9
You look great in your dress! Seriously, you have a great figure, I’m jealous of your boobs and tiny waist! Why not get yourself some control wear, a really good strapless bra (Wonderbra is great) and try your dress on again?
Post # 10
I think it looks great on you and as PP stated something to poof it out will make all the differebce!
Post # 11
I think you look gorgeous in it. Just steam it to get the wrinkles out and it will be perfect. It fits you perfectly! The only thing i would suggest if your not comfortable, then get a little jacket?
Post # 12
Honey you look amazing!
I dont think there is ANYTHING you can do you make yourself outwardly without first understanding INWARDLY that you are beautiful. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, and your man has seen YOU and wants to marry you! out of the millions of woment he picked you! it is YOU he will see coming down that aisle. Do you really think he’s gonna see a lump coming? NO. He’ll be seeing his dream coming true right before his very eyes!
So laugh at yourself for being a silly little miss, try that dreess on again, with a new attitude and you’ll see a huge difference. Imagine what difference a little smile would make to the photos? now imagine a smile that you mean! because one of the happiest days of your life is about to happen. You’ll laugh at all this once it’s over.
Big hugs and keep focusing on the best parts of you!
Post # 13
I would recommend making a concious effort to be more accepting about your body. There are tons of ways to do this but I think the most simple is to think about what you would say to someone else with your body shape. Would you tell them they were a lump? I bet not. I bet on other people you see the good things and in yourself you see the bad. You are not alone. BUT that kind of thinking is hurtful and you can change your thought habits. When you find yourself beating up on yourself STOP. Would you say things like that to your best friend? Your mom? Your sister? Whoever you love? Then you shouldn’t say them to yourself. So when you catch yourself thinking you look bad, try to compliment yourself. It feels really silly at first, but find something you like and focus on that. You will still have bad thoughts niggling in the background, but the more you try to actively focus on the good and just be nice to yourself, the easier it will become to ignore the hurtful thoughts. Because (and I really mean this) you look great. I think you will be a beautiful bride. And there are tons of us out here who would give anything for your amazing rack! So rock it! And don’t be too hard on yourself.
Post # 14
I think your dress is lovely sweetheart. Once you’ve got the right underwear on and you’re all glammed up you’ll feel like a princess. If you’re having a hair or makeup trial why not ry your dress on after that with your underwear and shoes? Then you’ll see the whole effect and maybe feel better. There’s so much pressure on brides, but I know you’ll be gorgeous xx
Post # 15
First of all, you do not look big. Second, I totally understand HOW you feel, as I was a 38F at the time of my wedding. Third, my mom lived about five hours from me and did not get to go dress shopping with me. The day she finally saw me in my gown at a fitting many months after I ordered it, she was silent and visibly tense. She did not like the way I looked in the dress. (I had the alterations person remove one of the crinolines, and she liked it better.)
I agree that you will feel much better about your dress once it’s pressed or steamed and ready to be worn on the day of your wedding. It’s difficult to see the lines of your dress in these photos; however, it seems as if it is sort of a faux wrap in the front.
One thing that I think you could do to help lead the eye away from the areas that are bothering you, while still being true to the lines/overall design of your gown, is to consider adding a proportionally sized silk flower to the side where the dress “wraps” (your left; our right as we view the pics.) I’ve seen some gorgeous dresses with flowers at the waist, and, on the right dress, and on the right bride, I think they’re beautiful. Just something to consider.
Post # 16
i LOVE that dress!! and i think you look great in it! with hair, makeup and A SMILE you will be stunning 🙂
if you really want to make a change, i liked a PP’s suggestion of another layer of crinoline to give a bit more poof and further narrow your already narrow waist. i am not an seamstress but that seems like an easy alteration to do this close to the wedding