(Closed) How do I get over it?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m not sure how old you are but things can change quickly and the economy will turn around.  Maybe you can’t TTC now but it might be possible in a year or two.  Don’t give up hope!

Post # 5
Member
42 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

So sorry you’re going through this. Maybe you two can save enough money to hold you over once you have a baby. I dont know if you will ever get over not having a baby when you really want one. I would hate for you to regret having children for the rest of your life.

Post # 7
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I know you feel like you don’t have a lot of time, but please don’t lose hope yet! There are several women in my life who for one reason or another waited until their mid-late 30s to have kids. I know that the longer you wait, the greater potential there is for complications, but don’t let that make you feel like you can’t do it. Try to focus on getting your family (you and your husband) stable for now, and then you can concentrate on expanding your family. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
Member
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@anotherbee:  I’m in the same boat.  Until one of our job situations changes dramatically, we can’t TTC or buy a house.

Right now, we are really trying to do things that make us happy and that will be more difficult to do when we have kids.  Little trips here and there, backpacking, staying up late and sleeping in (lol), eating take-out and drinking wine in bed, just silly stuff.  But really focusing on just being together and having fun together.  I am also spending some extra time at work, to try to get promoted so we can set the TTC wheels in motion!

Sometimes I get down about it, but I try to remember that being down about it won’t fix things at all.  But, working hard, saving money and trying to get ahead will.  And we got a cat, which sounds silly, but it really does help.

Plus, someday, those kids will fly the coop, so Darling Husband and I do need to learn to be happy and have fun just us ๐Ÿ™‚  

Post # 9
Member
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

And sometimes I feel like we will be stuck forever and that nothing will really change in 2-3 years.  Then, I remember that Darling Husband and I met, got engaged, married and both switched jobs once (twice for DH!) in the last two years!  A lot can happen really quickly!

Chin-up and hugs!

Post # 10
Member
1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I know how you feel. Our timeline for starting to TTC is tentatively set for later this year, but I’m jobless at the moment and trying to find work. I feel like if I don’t find something, then we’re going to need to hold off. It’s double the frustration – can’t get a job, and can’t start making a baby. Frown I’m also about 30, so like you, I am getting closer to the time when  things could get tricky.

I wish I had some great advice for you. But the good thing is, you’re being and adult and being responsible, and not just saying “Oh, f- it, let’s try to have a baby anyway when we can’t really afford it.” 

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