Post # 1
I find I always get nervous when I am getting intimate with my boyfriend. I am a little self conscious about my body (I am a little overweight, have a belly). I was never self conscious with my ex boyfriend, in fact I was confident because he told me he loved bigger girls. Unfortunately, I found out he repeatedly cheated on me. So perhaps that could be a reason why I am like this in my current relationship?
I do a weird nervous laugh, which sometimes gets my bf out of the mood. Even something small as my bf asking for a nude gets me nervous because I begin to question it. When we get intimate, I feel as if im being taken advantage of, and have even cried a few times. It’s gotten to the point where he has to coach me during sex and it leaves me feeling a little juvenile…
I grew up in a very conservative house hold where my mother always told me not to get intimate with a boy and put the fear of god into me.
How can I get over this fear and start enjoying sex?
Post # 2
Have you talked to your boyfriend about how you feel? Maybe just explaining your insecurities will help you open up to him and possibly even feel closer to him. Maybe buy some cute lingerie that actually covers more than you think? I hate my stomach too, so I bought a camisole that was somewhat sheer over the stomach and less so over the breasts. That way its sexy but you are still covered some too. I think just talking about it and taking baby steps are the easiest ways.
ETA: ok I skimmed the post the first time. After re reading, I think talking to your boyfriend is still a good idea, but perhaps talking to a therapist would also be beneficial too. It’s normal to be self concious sometimes, but not to the point where you’re so uncomfortable that you’re crying and feeling taken advantage of. I think working through each issue with a professional would really help. Good luck!
Post # 3
Have you considered counselling to help you overcome some of these challenges?
Post # 4
Funny enough, I made an appointment with a counsellor, and then I didnt end up going to the appointment because I was scared
Post # 5
shotoniphonex : I would definitely suggest therapy. Sorry you’re going through this.