- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I need help on how to tell my maid of honor that I don’t want her to be in my bridal party anymore.
We’ve been friends since grade 8 and pretty much were inseperable up until about 2 years ago, and things have really gone downhill this past year. I asked her to be my maid of honor about a year ago when I first got engaged. Shortly after I was engaged her boyfriend broke up with her and after that our friendship fell apart because she changed her lifestyle completely. Since the breakup she is always partying, hanging out with the wrong kind of people, and she says she’s into some hard drugs (i’m not sure i believe her, as she’s the type of person to say things to get your attention). Anyways, we’re not in the same life stages anymore and it’s really hard to relate to eachother. She once had told me she’s sorry and that she’s just jealous of my life now that I have settled down, getting married, etc. etc., because she was almost at that point with her boyfriend before they broke up. I thought maybe after the appology things would move on and we would be closer again. But I was wrong. We live three hours apart and when we talk on the phone it’s always about her, she never asks anything about my life, or the wedding planning etc. I try to chime in on some stuff and ask for her to come with me to wedding shows, dres shopping, etc. but she never wants to come. I saw her for a visit (beacause I drove to her as usual-she never comes to visit me) last weekend and it was just awkward, she talked about herself and her party life. I mentioned something about the wedding and she said “what’s your wedding date again, did you pick a venue yet?” All details which I hald already told her many times before. On the other hand, My friend that I have only known for 3 years has been with me every step of the way with this wedding planning process, and I haven’t even chosen her as a bridesmaid (we planned on having 1-2 people stand with us so she wasn’t chosen), and now I want her as my Maid/Matron of Honor because I know I’ll need her with me on my wedding day for support. She knows exactely my vision of my wedding and is always there to support me.
Long story short, my current moh has no interest in my wedding and I have no interest in having her in my wedding party anymore. How do I tell someone that? I’ve tried asking if she’s interested in being my Maid/Matron of Honor still and she says yes, so I don’t prolong the conversation because I dont want to hurt her feelings.
any help? anyone do this before?