Post # 1
I know that I am a lucky bee.. one who knows the timeline and that it will happen before 2012.. but i dont know how to relax and wait any longer.Please dont take me the wrong way, I am grateful for what I know and for the fact that I am with the most amazing person on this earth. But i want to get engaged so we can plan our life and get things going. I want to go to sleep with him and wake up in the morning beside him, and come home to him every day. I want to travel with him and share things with him. He is my best friend and it feels like time is going SO SLOW waiting.
Days are dragging by and I am hurting sometimes because I want to move to the next step and enjoy being engaged with my SO… every day is turning into a bad waiting day and I am more anxious than ever.
How can I get through this?
Post # 3
Deep breaths and lots of wines!!! Just remember, that 3 months will FLY by!!! Maybe get involved with a new hobby to take your mind off of it??
Post # 4
i have started a few new things in the past 2 months.. it is so helpful.. but I am honestly finding myself slowly floating back into restlessness. EVEN THOUGH I KNOW ITS COMING SO SOON!! I think im going crazzzy haha
Post # 5
I am like you and will be engaged by November 2012. What I do is to try to forget about the waiting and all the wedding stuff and I don’t nag him. I just focus on each day with him and have fun and just know that it will happen eventurally. I know, easier said than done, but what else can we do!?
Post # 6
I knew mine was coming starting from a couple months out and waiting was awful! I felt the same way you did. I had 4 summer classes (bad, bad idea…) to keep me occupied and busy, but I spent every free moment on Pinterest or here. It helped, but it didn’t. I don’t think there’s really any way to make the wait go much faster.
The wait is worth it! Hopefully it’ll be sooner rather than later and you won’t be waiting much longer.
Post # 7
@Seashells7: I hear you!! DAYS ARE DRAGGING!!! I know mine is coming the first weekend in october and it’s KILLING ME!!!! I swear time is in SLOW motion!!
I’m trying to really keep myself busy. I just started work again ( In a school) So that will keep my days busy, and I’m going to start going to the gym every day so hopefully everything just flies by!
Good luck and try to calm down ( trust me I know it’s easier said than done!)
Post # 8
@Seashells7 Try to enjoy your relationship as it is now, soon you’ll be an engaged bee and then a married bee and then even more life changes to come. Just try to relax and enjoy your relationship for what it is right now. You won’t be able to go back and relive these prior to being engaged days so make the best of the experience.
Post # 9
All of you ladies are making me think its better not to have a clue about the proposal and to let it come out of the blue!! I dont think I could handle the knowing and waiting…
Post # 10
I was told “before your birthday” which is in less than 6 weeks. So I’m going positively insane waiting! He just gets this little grin on his face and says “it’s in the works” whenever I ask. I’ve honestly taken those moments where I feel like I’m going to burst to do something calming like a 10 minute yoga sequence (yoga nut here.) It doesn’t happen too often, but remind yourself to enjoy these last few months as a single lady. Not to go wild or clubbing or mourn the loss of your singlehood, but to marvel at how far you’ve come and just smile knowing that there are only good things ahead!
Post # 11
I, too, am waiting for November. The weekend of Thanksgiving, to be exact…so the very…end…of….November.
I try not to think about it much. Just keep busy. I know it’s hard, but seriously drown yourself in activity of any kind. It helps.
Oh, and so does chocolate and as someone mentioned, sweet, sweet wine. 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Since you asked, my honest opinion is: if thinking about it is driving you crazy, GET OFF this website (and anything similar – the wedding section of Pinterest, etc). These can only make you obsess about it more….
Post # 13
I have no advice, just wanted to say you are not alone! All I know is that it almost definitely (but not absolutely positively definitely) will happen sometime between now and midnight on New Years Eve. Probably later rather than sooner, unfortunately. Every time my SO and I go out to dinner, I wonder if he’ll pop the question at the restaurant (unless it’s fast food or Friendly’s LOL)! I was so happy when August became September because it meant I’m 1 month closer to getting the ring! Just try to hang in there & take it day by day. *hugs*
Post # 14
@mrssoontobeh: Same here, as much as I want it to happen sometime this next year, I know I couldn’t handle waiting and knowing. But advice to the ladies on here. Focus on a hobby, work out, start to pin stuff on pinterest and make a plan so it’s that much easier once you’re engaged??
Post # 15
@Seashells7: I don’t have any original advice to add. Just wanted to throw in a “me, too” to remind you that you’re not alone, because it helps me to know there are others in the same boat. And I don’t take your frustration as being ungrateful by any means. You’ve spent a good chunk of your life looking for the right person, and now that you’ve finally found them, you want to take the next step towards your “happily ever after”.
Hang in there! You will have your time. And when it happens, the waiting period will be so far from your mind! Plus, I honestly believe all this waiting makes for an even more exciting engagement. In the meantime… wine 🙂
Post # 16
Get a hobby. Start knitting, scrapbooking, or anything you can think of to take your mind off of it. The most you focus on it, the worse it becomes.
Relax and enjoy this time together as Boyfriend or Best Friend and Girlfriend. Cherish it, because once you get engaged, it is crazy until the wedding.