(Closed) How do I handle crappy would-be MOH?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2157 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That’s awful 🙁 

I would suggest waiting til you are actually able to get a hold of her before judging/making decisions about her in your bridal party.  Perhaps she’s just not okay with travelling that far and wants to wait to talk to you on the phone to let you know her situation.

But still…3 weeks is a long time. I’m sorry this happened to you.

Post # 5
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think its really rude of her to just not respond at all, if she doesn’t want to, she could at least say so!! I would just write her a message that since she hasn’t replied, you are going to assume she doesn’t want to be your Maid/Matron of Honor

Post # 6
2157 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Agree with PP.  Write her a message letting her know how you feel.  Tell her that if you don’t hear back within x days, then you will have to assume she’d rather not be a part of your wedding, and you are hurt that she won’t tell you this herself.

Post # 7
62 posts
Worker bee

What is her problem?! Wow, I had a few “friends” that weren’t responding to me during the rsvp process. Later to find out that they couldn’t go. Perhaps she just cant go and feels bad… not that I’m excusing what she’s doing at all! I wouldn’t count on her to step up and be your Maid/Matron of Honor. That’s totally a rude thing to do and she needs to get her act together.

If I were you I’d FB message her or call her and leave a message, and just say something along the lines that it seems like she’s really busy and you don’t want to inconvience her at all and understand that she might not be able to do it. Then go ahead and pick someone who will actually be there for you.

I’ll never understand why people are so rude. I’m sorry hun!

Post # 10
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

im so sorry to hear that you are having this issue. depending on how close you are with her husband maybe send him a message/ call him and ask him to pass her the message to get into contact with you. try to be vague it may prompt her to give you a call ro message you back so you can finally get an answer. if she still doesnt them just move on because she is obviously not worth the continual effort and time

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