- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Hello, Bees! I need some advice.
My father is a great man that’s just not mentally all there anymore. This is not immediately evident until he starts speaking.
I’m concerned about his illogical rambling, potty-mouth, racist comments, etc. He recently has been obsessing over my estranged drug lord brother who has been in and out of jail, rehab, several emergency rooms, etc.. He has hounded my FI (who is a deputy) and myself (I work for a city police dept) about solutions to “curing” my brother and insists we have the power to get him arrested on demand or tracked, etc because of our jobs (We don’t – hello constitutional rights, agency policies and old fashioned morals! We also live in a different state.) This has been explained to him multiple times. He just won’t leave it alone.
Our guest list includes quite a few people that work in medical and law enforcement or related fields including my FI’s aunt, who is a judge several states away.
My father talks to anyone and everyone that has ears about my brother and his situation. I consider this embarrasing and private family business. We have told him several times not to do this, still he continues.
My fiance asked for his blessing to ask me to marry him and my father said “Yes, that would be great, you’re a great guy – can EstrangedBrother come live with you? Since you’re a cop, he couldn’t get himself in trouble with you watching him” Ugh. (We said no.)
My Fiance and I have joked about telling my dad that my FI’s aunt works a retail job, or asking certain guests to avoid mentioning their profession to him or even lying about it.
I’m starting to wonder if this is such a horrible idea.. I want to be honest but I also want my guests to have a good time and not have embarrasing family business layed out on the table at my wedding..