Post # 1
I really need opinions! I’m stressing about how to handle this. Our ceremony and reception is at the same outdoor location. We are not having an aisle. We are having all of the tables set up kind of in an “L” shape around the tree that we are getting married under. There is a house on the property where we will all be getting ready.
I will be walking from the house to the area where the tree/tables are, but everyone will be facing me sitting at their tables. There’s no way to have an aisle with the set up of the location. The “wedding tree” is in the middle of the area between house where I’m walking from and where everyone will be.
I know typically everyone stands up when the bride is walking down the aisle, but with my wedding it’s backwards. I’m walking towards everyone. I don’t know how to handle this, because I don’t want people to feel like they have to stand up at their tables when I walk out of the house, that’s awkward. I would rather just everyone be at their table, sitting down and stay sitting down when I walk out.
Do I have the band tell everyone to remain seated? Do I have someone go around and tell everyone to remain seated?
We are also passing out a ‘program’ of sorts that welcomes them to our wedding and explains some of our nonconventional things, like dinner is self serve and available throughout the night until 12 am, (I don’t want people to feel like they have to eat right after our ceremony) and after the band is done playing we have a late night DJ for those that want to stay (we don’t have a time limit), that our ceremony starts at sunset (instead of a specific time) etc. So is it weird to add a note on there about how I want people to stay seated?
What would you do? I need advice.
Post # 3
Will your officiant be standing under the tree with your groom waiting for you? They could welcome everyone and then ask them to remain sitting – aaaand cue the entrance music!
Post # 4
Also I’m jealous of your problem because I hate the idea of walking down the aisle and having everyone stare at me… I even feel awkward when I’m the guest at a wedding and we’re all staring at the bridal party, haha.
Post # 5
@BrightGreen: Yes, the officiant will be standing there. And the band will be playing light music as guests arrive. My Fiance will walk out and seat his mom, then my brother will walk out and seat my mom. We reserved a ‘head’ table close to the tree. We don’t have bridesmaids or groomsmen.
I didn’t think of having the officiant be the one to welcome everyone and ask them to remain seated, that’s a pretty good idea!
If I did that, how should we word it? I don’t want to be rude or have it sound tacky, but I also think it’s awkward to have everyone confused on what to do when I walk out.
Post # 6
I think it will be so beautiful for the guests to see you walking over from the house!! What a different idea, I love it.
As for the guests standing, if it’s like a 30 second walk don’t worry about it. If it’s longer, I doubt they will start to stand until you are close.
If you really don’t want people to stand just have the officiant welcome everyone and say “the couple would ask that you stay comfortably seated throughout the ceremony”
Post # 7
@Moja Milosc: O.M.G. I think that sounds great!!!
I was trying to figure out how the band could announce it, or we could say it, or what the heck to do. I NEVER thought about the officiant saying it!!! DUH.
So you don’t think that’s tacky or offensive to tell people to stay seated when I walk out?