(Closed) How do I handle someone who’s volunteered but may not follow through?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
166 posts
Blushing bee

I like your idea of asking her if she still plans on making them and giving her a deadline so that you can get the gift bag for them ready.  I am with you as far as paying for the supplies and then them not making the jewelry and you being stuck with the supplies.  If you do go ahead and front the supplies money I would defintely get the receipt in hand so you can return them if needed.  If she would be willing to pay for the supplies up front I would think that would give you a bit more “guarantee” that she is going to make them since she’ll be out the money up front.  If she can’t give you a time she’ll have them ready then I would tell her no thanks.

Post # 4
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

It doesn’t sound like you are comfortable enough to go through with it. And honestly you don’t even know if it will save you any $ at the end of the day. If I were you I would buy the girls something in my price range and let your friend know you found something fabulous that was ready-made and went for it.

Post # 5
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yup, I would just go wtih what makes you feel best.  At this point, do you need the additional stress of waiting on a friend who may not come through?  I like moderndaisy’s idea of telling her you found something fabulous and just went for it

I had a friend who said she would do our makeup day of.  Then she bailed on two events we had planned and made up excuses which made me worry about her.  Do I need to be worried about someone not showing up to do my makeup on my wedding day?  No.  So I told her my Mom had a friend who she wanted to do it for us.   Ooops….  🙂

Post # 6
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I think you should be very direct with her.  I’d approach her and ask her if she’s still up to helping you with making the Bridesmaid or Best Man jewelry (for starters).  Assuming she says yes – I’d ask her if she could do a couple mock ups for you to look like (make up something about having trouble envisioning what they look like).  That way – you can see her work and decide if you really want her to do it.  If she can get these for you quickly – then you will also have an idea of how much it will cost, etc.  Give her firm deadlines of what you are expecting and ask her if she can deliver in that timeframe.

But, if I were you, I’d have a backup – in case you either don’t like them or she can’t follow through.

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