- 2 years ago
- Wedding: September 2020 - NH Squam Lake Elopement
Semi new here, but I should declare myself as a waiting bee. If you check my post history you’ll see that we have a ring…so now the anticipation is really killing me. Here’s a little timeline…
August 2018: asked for a blessing from my mom and step dad at their wedding and my god mom over heard and TOLD ME! I was like ugh really! I didn’t want to know because then I really felt like something was coming.
September 2018: our 5 year anniversary…naturally I think something might happen…it was very uneventful. We had dinner. So, like a week later I said “what’s the dealio, it’s been 5 years, we own a home together!” So that sparked us talking and showing each other rings we both liked, etc.
December 2018: …still talking about rings, but talking a little about wedding stuff here and there! Kind of decided on what we’d like to happen at this future wedding. A little more of a backstory, he has referred to me as his wife before, and once told someone we were engaged (we weren’t???) and has told a few people we were going to get married in 2019. But…none of that is and/or happening…so I brought it up and gave him an out and he said that he wants to marry me, he just couldn’t make up his mind about the ring.
March 2019: we have a fun vacation planned (skiing!) and I straight up ask, “is anything going to happen while we’re on vacation?!” and he said no that he didn’t have a ring. I was pretty bummed to hear that, especially since he had asked for a blessing months prior and we had talked a lot about rings and had chosen a few together. At that point I was like “aight dude, I’m not waiting forever, we’re going to really start choosing something.” So we really started looking around at sites and ended up going with Provence Gems. Then we talked more and he wanted to propose at a place that was special to us, and then said he really liked the sound of a 2020 wedding better than a 2019. At that point I was like well I can’t plan a wedding in like 6 months so 2020 it is! From there we agree to start doing venue research.
May 2019: we go through the process of getting the ring made, it’s here, I’ve tried it on. So then I make a joke “when I can I start wearing it?” and he completely evaded my question and my heart felt so sad. I think he thought I was prying to find out how/when he was going to ask. I eventually spill my heart out and tell him how sad I am that he doesn’t seem as excited as me (but really he’s NEVER excited about anything), and that I just couldn’t wait to be his wife and that if we’ve already decided on potential wedding dates and have talked extensively about our guest list and wedding plans, why can’t he ask me sooner. And he said “I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you, that’s all I want, but you have to trust me with this.”
So there’s my waiting story. I am excited…but I’m so anxious thinking about it because I want it to really happen. I want to feel really validated in talking to venues and photographers. I’ve done so much research into venues and I told him this is the time to tour them, but that I wanted to officially be engaged before touring. I can’t wait to start writing my vows and to officially be his wife! So, how did you happily wait? I’m going to religiously keep my nails nice…and try not to think that every little excursion could be something more!