How do I invite EVERYONE to the rehearsal dinner?

posted 2 weeks ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

I would put an insert card in the invite.  

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Definitely include an insert card with the invitation if people are travelling from out of town, as they will need to know about the rehearsal dinner ASAP when making travel plans. I can’t imagine why this would be tacky.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Why would it be tacky to include with the invitation? 

 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

An insert included with the wedding invitation is the way to go. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

mellybee561 :  If this is what his family has done for generations, they probably have the invitation part down pat. I’d leave it to them or ask them how I can help. I would definitely not invite everyone via my own wedding invitations unless the hosts are ok with that. 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

We had something similar. We had a rehearsal dinner after the actual rehearsal with the required parties, and my in laws threw a ‘welcome party’ a bit later that everyone was invited to. The welcome party was more drinks and nibbles but optional, and I liked having the rehearsal dinner separate. 

I think an insert is appropriate if you need a headcount, but we mostly just spread it by word of mouth and included it on our welcome brochure thing (just listed all the events of the weekend delivered to their hotel room). Almost all guests stayed in the same hotel so it was relatively easy. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

We invited everyone. We included an insert with the invitation and included it on the RSVP card (physical and website RSVP options).

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper

The invitation should be separate and sent by the hosts. It does not belong in the wedding invitation. Traditionally the wedding party, officiant, immediate families and their partners are invited, but there is nothing inappropriate whatsoever about including a larger guest list. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Well, our hosts were 89 years old, so we figured we would save them some heartache.

Plus, a lot of our guests were traveling so it was easier for them if they got all the information they needed at one time.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper

I realize I didn’t fully answer the question about making flight reservations ahead of time to account for a rehearsal dinner invitation. I would do that as a heads up to those invited, either by way of a wedding website if everyone is included, a separate mailing or email or one on one correspondence. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

You are not hosting the rehearsal dinner so you have nothing to do with sending the invitations.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

mellybee561 :  

Well if your fil’s parents are the hosts, then surely they, not you, do the inviting? I would just check how they plan on doing it and if that means adding it to the wedding invitation , fine . If not, assume they know how to do it, given it is traditional in their family. 

ok just saw your update … 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Nope, nope, nope. Even if Mother-In-Law doesn’t want to “deal” with invitations, you need to help her pick some out and mail them herself. 

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