Post # 16
I just spread the invite info to people using word of mouth, and will let my Future Mother-In-Law send actual invites later. I am not willing or able to take on additional wedding tasks for another event!
Since everyone is invited, I would also include it on your wedding website. Did you send save the dates? Maybe it could tie in with that somehow…?
Post # 17
mellybee561 : I’ve gotten wedding invitations which included both events on a single card and it was fine. i personally think this is less confusing then sending two separate invitations if everyone is included in both events. people will start booking travel etc when they receive your wedding invite, so if you want them to plan to be in town for an event the night before, i think it makes sense to have the invites together.
some people seem fixated on who is “hosting” aka paying for particular events and having the invite come from them. this seems old-fashioned and unnecessarily complicated. i’ve never known who is paying for what event at a friend’s wedding, and frankly, it seems irrelevant to the guests.
Post # 18
If I’m invited to a party, I want to know who’s inviting me, whom I should thank, and so forth. Hosting should be clear. The host should send the invitations and deal with the rsvps.
Post # 19
If your inlaws are hosting the event, they should send the invitations. End of story. It’s part of hosting.
Post # 20
mellybee561 : “she does not want to deal with RSVPs” — So they give your contact info on for the RSVP, no big deal.
Post # 21
diana148 : You don’t thank the hosts when you’re invited to an event? You just go, eat, drink, and leave without knowing or caring who went to the time, energy, and often expense of treating you to the hospitality? It’s hard to imagine someone could be that rude, yet here you are saying that knowing who’s hosting is old-fashioned, “complicated” (?!? how bizarre!), and irrelevent. What a shame.
Post # 22
My in-laws hosted our rehearsal dinner, but they also had me handle the invitations and rsvps. It wasn’t a big deal to me. I was happy to do it. I actually used e-invitations and had my in-laws names as the hosts on the invites. People sent back their rsvps electronically. They knew who was hosting but I was behind the scenes handling the guest list.
You could just as easily do this with an insert in the formal invitation. Just have the little card say “Please join us for a rehearsal dinner at ABC venue at 7:00 on Friday, July 10, hosted by Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s parents. Please RSVP by whatever date to Bride name at telephone number/ email address”
Post # 23
I was just invited to a wedding that does this. They had a website where they are having people RSVP, and on the website it listed all the wedding events with an option to rsvp to different portions. So they had the details of the ceremony/reception and an RSVP button, then a little blurb about how everyone is welcome to the rehearsal dinner the night before and another RSVP.
Post # 24
mellybee561 : I did this for my first wedding and it was super fun! We put it on the wedding website and also via word of mouth. Most people who had to travel were getting in friday afternoon / early evening at the latest anyway, and the locals were mostly available because of the wedding the next day, so it didn’t seem to affect travel plans.
Post # 25
Daisy_Mae : i always thank both sets of parents and the couple at a wedding. should i exclude one of them because they didn’t pay for something?